Ten things you didn’t know about me

© Yes, that's me: Bungee jumping & rock climbing

Of course I already have waaayyyy more than ten things on my About Me page (because of course I do) but I’m pretty sure these aren’t on there, plus you don’t get any visuals over there:

  1. When I was a kid, my not-very-well-off parents used to take us to legit deserted tropical islands on the Great Barrier Reef for holidays. They’d pay a fishing trawler $50 to drop us off with all of our camping gear (including water, there was literally nothing on these islands), and trust them to come back in 2 weeks to pick us up. This kind
Continue Reading
Loves: 18
Please wait...
Read More

Bad memory problems

I have a bad memory. Truly terrible. I actually think it contributes to my introversion because it means I run into awkward social problems:
“Oh, we’ve met before? Several times? Of course we have…”
“Meet… um… [blank]??”
“We saw that movie together? Did I like it?”

Then the non-trivial which is hundred-fold worse:
“Oh, you already told me your sister had cancer… :((” *wishes the ground would open up and swallow me whole*

At work I compensated by taking copious notes about EVERYTHING, making full use of my calendar, sending follow up emails after meetings confirming agreed outcomes, and … Continue Reading

Loves: 15
Please wait...
Read More

Are ‘introvert Dommes’ a thing?

Yes, of course introvert Dommes are a thing!

Also shy Dommes, socially awkward Dommes, anxious Dommes, quiet Dommes, depressed Dommes etc. Wanting a D/s relationship isn’t contingent on being a certain type of person. On either side of the slash.

I am introverted, very.

I think people often use ‘introverted’ when they mean some of the things I mentioned above.

But that’s not what I mean by ‘introverted’.

For me, I’m talking more of a Jungian definition (think ‘MBTI tests’: I know I know, they are so yesterday :P).

That is, for me, people are energy sucks.

I do think … Continue Reading

Loves: 14
Please wait...
Read More

Femdom blogger EOY message

© 'All Ferns all the time' by and of Ferns :)

As a proper-for-real femdom blogger, I’m supposed to do a proper-for-real end-of-year (EOY) roundup full of stats and reflection and forward-looking statements about goals and such things, especially since it’s the end of the decade. Phew!

I’m not going to do that, though.

What I want to say in my last post of 2019 is this:

I am lucky and privileged to have this platform to write, and to have you, my lovely readers, to accompany and support me as I go.
So I want to say a huge and heartfelt thank you for being here with me.

My auto-tweetery … Continue Reading

Loves: 43
Please wait...
Read More

An(other) Ferns interview [audio]

Earlier this year, I had the privilege of doing a second interview with amazing Molly from Molly’s Daily Kiss for her podcast cutely named Kisscast.

I had my first chat with her way back in 2015, and we had a blast, so I was delighted to have the opportunity to catch up again.

We covered a lot of topics:

  • Why I started blogging
  • How my dominance started
  • Discovering BDSM
  • Feeling D/s as love and romance
  • Service subs as the unicorns of D/s
  • On newbies and learning
  • Dating (ugh!)
  • The story of Pissy Pants Pete and how that’s relevant
Continue Reading
Loves: 6
Please wait...
Read More

Come eavesdrop on another chat [Audio]

© Masocast by UnspeakableAxe

My third Masocast interview, ‘Ferns is back’, is live (the first interview from 2012 is here and the second from 2014 is here)!!

I had so much fun and a lot of laughs in this long chat with the lovely [unspeakable]Axe. We covered a wide and rambling set of topics related to BDSM from vanilla dating to how I should just go to New York to find a submissive :).

Random snippets:

I just wanna say ‘fuck you!’

Oh shit no. Oh can you imagine? Nooooo

I like to think it’s because I’m fabulous, but it’s really

Continue Reading
Loves: 7
Please wait...
Read More

More on introversion

Public domain mark'Untitled' by Unknown

I’ve talked about how introversion feels to me before, but it’s so strange, I’m trying to get a more precise explanation.

At its simplest, the Jungian version of introvert/extrovert is that the former get their energy from being alone and the latter get their energy from being with others. It’s a spectrum and I think a lot of people hover somewhere around the middle. I’m towards the extreme end of introversion. Being introverted doesn’t mean I’m shy or lack confidence or am socially unskilled or any of those things, it’s pretty much purely about energy.

Socialising is an energy drain … Continue Reading

Loves: 22
Please wait...
Read More
1 2 3 10