Negotiation in my relationships

I don’t negotiate play in my relationships. The key part there being ‘in my relationships’.

To get to the ‘in my relationship’ part, we have already done the work, we know what’s in scope, we’ve established boundaries, we know each other, and he trusts me to make judgement calls about what we do when, and how. I know that kind of blanket consent is a thing some folks are uncomfortable with and I understand that it’s not a model that works for everyone. But for me and mine, I will get us there. And my submissive always has a safeword: … Continue Reading

Loves: 16
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Sometimes, he melts

Three ice creams

As an additional comment to this long-ago post about my telling a submissive man I’m smitten by that he’s beautiful, about his reaction to hearing it, I’m surprised that I didn’t mention that sometimes, he melts.

Sometimes I say the words and I see in his response a wordless kind of breaking down, a softening, a downing of walls, an internal sigh of surrender.

Getting him to that unguarded state is not so difficult: It can come from intensity, from sensation, from relentless attack. When all of his senses have been overloaded, when everything comes down, THEN he melts.

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Loves: 11
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I want to bring it!

One of my past submissives was a professional writer, a poet, he had a beautiful way with words that I adored. His mind was a messy complexity of wild imagination, odd and loud, and full of pretty things, and he offered it up unfettered to me, revelling in my enjoyment of it. We would play with each other in that way, throwing words in each other’s faces, conjuring up a strange magic that would floor me every time.

I once pointed him to some writing that I liked.

“Here’s something you might enjoy,” I said innocently.

He curled his nose … Continue Reading

Loves: 18
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Happy femdom story: Peter & R

This love story started on Fetlife many years ago, and is still going strong <3.

Enjoy little slice of this happiness.

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Author: Peter

I can still read on Fetlife the first message I sent her, almost exactly nine years ago.

I had started exploring about two years earlier, newly divorced at 47; meeting people for casual play, driving all over the southeast, going to play parties or sessions in Atlanta about once a month.

Four months after joining Fet, it occurred to me to scan my local group’s members list for sadists/tops/dommes in my age range, looking for play partners. … Continue Reading

Loves: 11
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24/7 D/s vs FLR: What’s the difference?

There were some conversations on Twitter today about the difference between a 24/7 D/s dynamic and a Female Led Relationship (FLR).

An expanded version of my tweet-thoughts on this below.

The upshot: To me they’re the same thing.

My goal is a 24/7 D/s dynamic.

In my 24/7 D/s dynamic (when I have one), I have the authority in our relationship.

I lead, he follows.

There may be carve-outs that we agree on: For example, I may not have authority over his work or family, we decide what works for us. And that may change over time.

But the bottom … Continue Reading

Loves: 42
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Happy femdom story: Melissa Cohen

This is a long and wonderful happy femdom story about Melissa and her boy, Joseph. They have been together nearly 10 years now, and their story is absolutely fascinating and utterly unique. Not least because Joseph was a Catholic priest when they met…

Enjoy :).

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Author: Melissa Cohen

Our Origin Story

I am a newbie looking to be properly initiated into submission.

I am smart and sensitive but very shy. I have been submissive all of my life and have gotten more and more into the scene, kind of exploring things on my own, but now I need a … Continue Reading

Loves: 11
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Happy femdom story: D&S Part 2, S’ side

I shared D’s side of D&S’ happy femdom story already.

This is Part 2: Her side.

S talks about how she felt when her husband, D, told her about his desires, and what happened next.

Huge thanks to both D and S for so generously sharing their story.
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Author: S

I remember the day over five years ago that D told me about his long-suppressed interest in submission, kink and D/s. We had been married twenty-four years, and he told me we needed to talk. My mind was racing. Somehow, I suspected the worst, a confessed affair or a … Continue Reading

Loves: 9
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