Newbie challenges

I want to say up-front that I love newbie submissives, I do. They’re so shiny :). My last submissive was a newbie and he was utter perfection.

But (you knew there was a ‘but’ coming, right? :P) I don’t have the patience or interest for those whose emotional intelligence doesn’t extend to believing in my humanity. That is *not* a situation I’m going to put myself in, fighting to be seen as human, and if I get a whiff of it with a newbie, I’m out.

There’s a school of thought that some newbies have internalised where they conflate BDSM … Continue Reading

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Are ‘introvert Dommes’ a thing?

Yes, of course introvert Dommes are a thing!

Also shy Dommes, socially awkward Dommes, anxious Dommes, quiet Dommes, depressed Dommes etc. Wanting a D/s relationship isn’t contingent on being a certain type of person. On either side of the slash.

I am introverted, very.

I think people often use ‘introverted’ when they mean some of the things I mentioned above.

But that’s not what I mean by ‘introverted’.

For me, I’m talking more of a Jungian definition (think ‘MBTI tests’: I know I know, they are so yesterday :P).

That is, for me, people are energy sucks.

I do think … Continue Reading

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Reader Q&A: Femdom Podcast #112 [Audio]

This fulsome femdom podcast Q&A includes the following:

  • NEW PROJECT ANNOUNCEMENT: I’m creating Femdom audio erotica!
  • Partner wants me to be ‘more dominant’
  • Do you have advice for your younger self?
  • How to introduce group CFNM play to my dominant
  • Do you have a favourite type of nipple clamp?
  • Facing ruined co-habitation LDR plans because of Covid-19
  • How to switch in the moment, any suggestions?
  • Dealing with his performance anxiety
  • Giving/receiving rimming: Yay or nay?
  • And more!

The Domme Chronicles podcast is available on iTunes and Spotify: Subscribe if you want to be sure to get my audio … Continue Reading

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Reader Q&A: Femdom Podcast #111 [Audio]

This ridiculously fabulous femdom podcast Q&A includes the following:

  • Have you tried receptive anal?
  • How to do femdom dirty talk?
  • Punishment vs scene time: How to deal?
  • Suggestions for D/s with kids around
  • What do you charge for a session? [a rant]
  • Should I ask my Mistress to push past what I think I can take?
  • When did you discover your dominance?
  • At a loss for role play to punish him, halp!
  • And more!

The Domme Chronicles podcast is available on iTunes and Spotify: Subscribe if you want to be sure to get my audio porn delivered straight to … Continue Reading

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Reader Q&A: Femdom Podcast #109 [Audio]

This femdom podcast Q&A tackles the following questions:

  • Is this particular fantasy possible?
  • New sub still wearing chastity device from his previous Domme. Halp!
  • My wedding gift to my wife was a CB2000 as a joke (hint: not a joke)
  • Am I a foot fetishist or a submissive?
  • Do you have any post-orgasm torture ideas?
  • How do you feel about honorifics from submissives you don’t own?
  • Questions from an Arabic Muslim sub with an American Christian Domme
  • Is ‘breaking subs’ a thing? What about shaping, training, or manipulating ?
  • And much more!

The Domme Chronicles podcast is available on iTunesContinue Reading

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Reader Q&A: Femdom Podcast #108 [Audio]

© 'Ferns' Legs' by and of Ferns. Music by M.M. Transcript by MFMWKE.

This femdom podcast Q&A includes the following:

  • Cut or uncut, that is the question
  • How to get my sub to be more communicative
  • My submissive doesn’t initiate, help!
  • Scammers, boo
  • A certain type of play is causing him concerns
  • How to support your vanilla partner in finding her dominance
  • Resources for beginners (spoiler: My non-fiction book list!
  • Me telling a new domme to DTMFA
  • I’m really attracted to my sub, but he wants ‘MEAN DOMME’
  • And more!

The Domme Chronicles podcast is available on iTunes and Spotify: Subscribe if you want to be sure to get my audio porn … Continue Reading

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How to handle disobedience

My new book (coming out soon!), How To Handle Disobedience, is for new dominant women who struggle with obedience in their femdom dynamic. It’s a deeper dive into the approach I outlined in this post, “What to do when your submissive says ‘no’” (one of my most popular posts).

I’ve been around for a long time, and one of the reasons I started my ‘How To’ Femdom Series was to give down-to-earth practical help to newbies, both dominant women and submissive men.

Rather than giving some high level ‘whole of dynamic’ advice, I honed in on issues … Continue Reading

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