Advice for submissive men #547

I’ve said this a million times before and will probably repeat it a million more times before I’m dead:

Dominant women who want a D/s relationship aren’t going to be interested in a man just because he’s submissive.

Approaching any relationship-orientated dominant woman with ‘I’m submissive’ as your ‘tah-daaah’ trump card doesn’t carry any weight.

Dominant women are interested in a man because he’s awesome and interesting and funny and smart and compatible with … Continue Reading

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“I want to be an oral slave”

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Question:
Would an oral slave satisfy a domme?
I love and crave facesitting, pussy and ass worship, body worship. Would this alone satisfy a domme?

Answer:
Imagine, if you will, being on a vanilla site and asking a similar question.

“I love and crave facesitting, pussy and ass licking, body touching and licking. Would this alone satisfy a woman?”

Imagine, if you will, your sister/female friends/any actual-for-real woman you’ve ever met ever reading that, written … Continue Reading

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Femdom: Is this a scam?

Scam alert

Femdom scams are common. Soooo common. The truth is that if you’re asking ‘is this a femdom scam?’, it’s probably a femdom scam :/.

I’ve written about femdom scams a few times over the years:

  • This is what a scam looks like*
  • Scammers come in different flavours*
  • Should I pay tribute?
  • *Note: My older posts have not kept up with the fast pace of technology: As mentioned below, a simple, very Continue Reading

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    Reader Q&A: Femdom Podcast #113 [Audio]

    © 'Ferns Femdom Podcast' by and of Ferns. Music by M.M. Transcript by MFMWKE.

    This fabulous femdom podcast includes the following:

    • A big thank you to my Patreon supporters (because of course)
    • A sweet little happy femdom story (yay!)
    • Advice on getting into phone domming
    • Resources for a new Domme (tip: My non-fiction book list)
    • Should I consider a much older partner?
    • Should I seek out a pro-Domme for this fantasy?
    • How do I handle a serious issue with my long term dominant partner?
    • What do you like
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    Should I pay tribute?

    There are a LOT of questions everywhere all the time from new submissives asking whether paying a tribute is a normal thing when looking for a personal or love-based F/m relationship.

    Why do they ask this?

    Often it’s because they’ve already handed over some money to someone and instead of it leading to a meeting and the start of a beautiful relationship, it led to, you guessed it, a request for more money. Or they’ve … Continue Reading

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    Newbie challenges

    I want to say up-front that I love newbie submissives, I do. They’re so shiny :). My last submissive was a newbie and he was utter perfection.

    But (you knew there was a ‘but’ coming, right? :P) I don’t have the patience or interest for those whose emotional intelligence doesn’t extend to believing in my humanity. That is *not* a situation I’m going to put myself in, fighting to be seen as human, and if … Continue Reading

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    Are ‘introvert Dommes’ a thing?

    Yes, of course introvert Dommes are a thing!

    Also shy Dommes, socially awkward Dommes, anxious Dommes, quiet Dommes, depressed Dommes etc. Wanting a D/s relationship isn’t contingent on being a certain type of person. On either side of the slash.

    I am introverted, very.

    I think people often use ‘introverted’ when they mean some of the things I mentioned above.

    But that’s not what I mean by ‘introverted’.

    For me, I’m talking more of a … Continue Reading

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