Safety rules

Staying safe is a product of any number of things, and obviously this applies especially in the world of BDSM-related dating where it can be even easier for dangerous people to hide behind a veil of D/s type activities. I’ve written before that newbies should do as I say, not as I do because what I SAY about safety actually makes a lot more objective sense than what I DO. The reasons for that are many but the bottom line is that I trust my judgement. […]

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Meeting with my American boyfriend…

I’ve spent time with him before but it’s rare and precious. I picked Drew up from the airport around noon, and we started with lunch and drinks here: IMG_5026 Then we went to my place for champagne and lots of talks and secret-telling. He let me handle his gorgeous chastity device: the Axel by Steelwerks: Steelwerks chastity device And this is the key to his chastity device around my neck. […]

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A date with my First

Next weekend my First is flying in to spend the weekend.  He’s arriving on Saturday morning, staying nearby overnight, and heading off Sunday. He’s hired a car, so there’ll be no picking him up at the airport in fabulous heels and doing that squinty-confused face where I’m terrified I won’t recognise him.  In fact, we’re meeting at my gym (not kidding!). […]

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Meeting DualDrew

So I met a cute boy on the weekend. Something that always stresses me out when meeting someone off the internet is the fear of not recognising them despite having exchanged photos. I hate it. Photos are never enough to be sure (really, before meeting someone, we should exchange photos of ourselves looking a bit unsure and confused because THAT’S the expression we’re all wearing when we’re eyeing off strangers and thinking ‘Is that them? […]

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Meeting a cute boy

I rarely meet people off the internet unless they are potential partners. I’m not a friendly person: I hate meeting people, and I hate socialising, so unless there’s a chance of at LEAST getting some kissing out of it, I’m not interested. I made an exception for the lovely switch because, well, he was so very lovely. I also made an exception for climbing boy, […]

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Meeting with a submissive man

We had been emailing/chatting for some 12 months (he checked yesterday: his first email to me was 1st September last year). Perhaps we had some voice calls also, I forget.  He’s a local boy, sweet and smart, quite a bit younger than me. Our contact was on and off, he developed a crush, but he’s not a potential. […]

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Kissing date mark II

I didn’t want to talk about this until it was a SURE THING. Because, well, you know.  But since I’m posting this as I walk out the door to meet him, unless he’s a no show (he won’t be), fuck yeah, kissing date! Holy-fuck-beautiful-eyes kept in casual touch after cancelling our kissing date (as he said pointedly to me, […]

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Dating… ugh

I can’t remember the last time I went on a normal ‘date’. You know what I mean: A ‘hey let’s go out and see if there’s anything here’ kind of date, all casual-like and low risk. My last two dates have been ‘hey, let’s spend lots of money, organise some international flights, find some accommodation, travel for 20+ hours, […]

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Post-meeting update

I want to write a lot in the calm after meeting bambi yesterday (calm because it is the morning of the next day, and he is still in bed (in the spare bedroom, to clarify…)), but my thoughts are all scattered. Good-scattered though, all snippets of lovely things that I am not able to grab a firm hold of just yet. Randomly:   There is a really strong attraction between us, […]

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A weekend: The Domme and the lovely switch

The lovely switch and I had a day and a half together in Sydney. I flew in on Friday, and he arrived on Saturday morning, after the ungodly long flight from the US. Our first conversation went something like this: *ring ring* Me: Hello! Welcome to Australia!! Him: *laughing* Thank you!! Happy to be here!! *some pleasantries* Him: So I’m at the hotel, […]

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