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Submissive, but not YOUR submissive
It gets stated a lot and it’s perfectly true: dominants should not expect random submissives to submit to them right out of the gate simply because they’ve slapped a label on themselves. When a dominant oversteps, a common form of pushback sounds like “I may be submissive, but I’m not YOUR submissive”, and fair enough.
When I am corresponding with a submissive man, I don’t expect him to submit to me.
But…
I’m a strong … Continue Reading
Femdom Novella: What now?
Thank you so much to everyone who voted and commented on my femdom novella idea.
The results were very encouraging:
So, I guess this means I need to write a thing now… ooh look, shiny!!
I’ve set up a mailing list for anyone who is interested in being involved in my writing process and to keep me accountable. That way I will keep it (mostly) off the blog.
I will NOT spam you or … Continue Reading
Reader Q&A: Fetishes, disappearances, & affection
Yay, Q&A!
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At what age did you figure out you were a domme?
I found out there was such a thing as BDSM when I was about 30.
Before that, I did the work to figure out how to work with power in my relationships, but I had no context within which to put a label on it.
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Hi! I love how dominant girl you are. Yes, I am a fuckable guy! My … Continue Reading
We talk, we compare notes, we laugh (a lot) [audio]
I recently had the privilege of an audio chat with the fabulous Molly from Molly’s Daily Kiss.
We discussed blogging, D/s, labels, monogamy, confidence, stereotypes, and much more.
We also talked about my Domme Chronicles book which she describes as ‘love letters to submissive men’, plus she calls the stories ‘beautifully written’, which makes me beyond happy.
We laughed a lot. Which made the entire chat a complete delight. Plus Molly has a lovely … Continue Reading
Non-monogamy and me
Peroxide over at Submissive in Seattle wrote an introspective post about polyamory for the mono-amorous where he talks about what it was like to be in a poly relationship when he’s mono-amorous. Short version: it’s tough. Long version: go read it.
I’ve been meaning to write something about non-monogamy (really, non-monoamory, but god, what an awkward word!) for a while.
Partly because my First now identifies as non-monogamous so it’s come a little closer to … Continue Reading
Reader Q&A: Finding partners, fantasies, BDSM integration
A blessed rest from contemplating my own navel…
Let’s see who’s been hiding all up in my Ask box, shall we?
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I’m a 23 year old virgin male who is extremely submissive. Because of this, I have a hard time meeting women and always want them to take the lead (it has never worked). Any advice here? Kind of worried I may never find what I’m looking for.
My advice: Go where the … Continue Reading
Interviewed by NYT best selling author!
New York Times best selling author Megan Hart contacted me recently because she loved my book (BECAUSE SHE LOVED MY BOOK!!) *faints*.
… Continue ReadingI loved the book, which tapped into a lot of what I like to explore in my own writing — the themes of female dominance that is not tied to leather or vinyl catsuits and whips or sex dungeons (not that those can’t be fun!)… real portrayals of what it’s like for