Corsetry: Red or blue?

© 'Corsets' by & of Ferns, Domme Chronicles

I’m going to a BDSM event next week.

To be clear, I never go to BDSM events.

I think the last time I went to a BDSM club was Paddles in New York, and that was a gazillion years ago.

But I had a very uncharacteristic bout of social energy last month, so here we are.

I had to dig around to find my corsets since that’s about it for fetish gear I own … Continue Reading

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I believe you the first time

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
— Maya Angelou

This is a timeless quote. I wholeheartedly believe in it.

I sometimes have interactions with potential partners, submissive men, natch, who do something egregious early on in our correspondence.

And that’s it, I’m out.

I know it sounds harsh, and it is.

If someone lies to me, is disrespectful, is mean, ignores my boundaries, expresses some offensive view, is shitty … Continue Reading

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Yes, it’s about you

I’ve mentioned quite a few times that I’m a bit like a stereotypical man when it comes to orgasms. I come once, hard, and then I lose interest. I’m done.

When I came at least twice with him each time, my pleasure was multiplied by watching him realise that that was about him.

It was not ‘a thing’ he did (though there was that too), it was just… him. And I could see the realisation … Continue Reading

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BDSM house for sale

Speaking of BDSM in the mainstream, this real estate listing in Maple Glen, PA. went out with photos of their fully furnished dungeon basement in it.

It went viral, which obviously shows the titillation value of it and no doubt achieved the agent’s goal of maximum exposure.

The real estate sites, though, did take the photos down after it got a lot of publicity, so the pearl-clutchers were close at hand to shut it … Continue Reading

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On beautiful submissive men

© 'Submissive men: A celebration of beauty (video still)' by Ferns

Years ago, I created a tribute to the beauty of submissive men, with contributions from submissive men and from those who love them. It is still my most favourite project, and illustrates, truly, how the nature of beauty is so much more complex than it seems on the surface.

This video is the result of those generous contributions.

Submissive men: A celebration of beauty


Let me say this without any slight on him: My last … Continue Reading

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Insight: Life as an F/m group moderator

I already shared this on twitter, so if you follow me there (and why wouldn’t you?!), you’ve heard this story already :).

This is a story about that one time some dude got super mad because he thought someone was saying he had a small dick (spoiler: they weren’t).

As a moderator of a large F/m discussion group, I get an email from That Angry Dude (TAD) because someone in a thread attacked him and … Continue Reading

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Pegging in the mainstream

I’m always surprised by pegging coming up in mainstream media. It is becoming more common in the same way chastity is finding its way into the mainstream.

I was going to compile a whole list with links, but look, I’m up against the deadline for posting today (I nearly forgot!), so I’m just putting out what I had in the depths of my 180+ drafts (it’s a mess in there). Don’t judge me!

This in … Continue Reading

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