Nearly femdom-date with a maybe-submissive

Speaking of newbies, I’m raising this femdom dating story that has been languishing in my drafts since last year. It’s lingered there un-posted because I couldn’t tease anything worthwhile out of it, but look, when I’m trying to post every damn day in June, you get what you get :P.

I found a self-identified submissive man on a vanilla dating site and messaged him. SCORE!
Or, you know, not.

He was cute, articulate, seemed … Continue Reading

Loves: 14
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Do you know yet?

This is pure unadulterated ego, but I STILL think it’s true:

A bummer with newbie submissive men I get involved with is that they won’t know how amazing I really am until they get some experience with others. Until then, they more or less think all Dommes are like me, probably better, because ‘internet’ :P.

But if am interested in them, if I’m with them, there’s something special there. Something unlike anything they are going … Continue Reading

Loves: 16
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Happy femdom story: Peter & R

This love story started on Fetlife many years ago, and is still going strong <3.

Enjoy little slice of this happiness.


Author: Peter

I can still read on Fetlife the first message I sent her, almost exactly nine years ago.

I had started exploring about two years earlier, newly divorced at 47; meeting people for casual play, driving all over the southeast, going to play parties or sessions in Atlanta about once a month.

Four … Continue Reading

Loves: 13
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Are ‘introvert Dommes’ a thing?

Yes, of course introvert Dommes are a thing!

Also shy Dommes, socially awkward Dommes, anxious Dommes, quiet Dommes, depressed Dommes etc. Wanting a D/s relationship isn’t contingent on being a certain type of person. On either side of the slash.

I am introverted, very.

I think people often use ‘introverted’ when they mean some of the things I mentioned above.

But that’s not what I mean by ‘introverted’.

For me, I’m talking more of a … Continue Reading

Loves: 21
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A braingasm of femdom posts

What’s the collective noun for a relentless bunch of femdom blog posts in a row?

I settled on ‘a braingasm’, but maybe ‘an insult’, ‘an authority’, ‘an order’, ‘a shitstorm’, ‘a salubriosity’ (is SO a word!)?


The fabulous Hyacinth over at A Dissolute Life Means is running an #EveryDamnDayInJune blogging meme, which she does every year and which I’ve never joined. You can find links to folks who are … Continue Reading

Loves: 4
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Reader Q&A: Femdom Podcast #112 [Audio]

This fulsome femdom podcast Q&A includes the following:

  • NEW PROJECT ANNOUNCEMENT: I’m creating Femdom audio erotica!
  • Partner wants me to be ‘more dominant’
  • Do you have advice for your younger self?
  • How to introduce group CFNM play to my dominant
  • Do you have a favourite type of nipple clamp?
  • Facing ruined co-habitation LDR plans because of Covid-19
  • How to switch in the moment, any suggestions?
  • Dealing with his performance anxiety
  • Giving/receiving rimming: Yay or
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Loves: 6
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