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Trying to date takes up all of my writerly energy (not even dating, just trying to date).
I’m not sure why that is really.
It’s not like I’m spending hours a day thinking up witty replies to stellar messages. Most of the emails that land in my inbox are about the same level of lame one liner as I’ve already mentioned in this post. I’m not even bothering to reply to those.
I did … Continue Reading
My first vanilla date
His introductory email was thoughtful and articulate. He’d not only read my profile, but he had also looked through my many Q&A responses and his note referenced both.
He was 6’2, a little younger than me, no photos.
I suggested we meet after a few exchanges. This must be a new record for me. My new strategy: ‘Dating immersion’. I didn’t ask for a photo. To be honest, I forgot.
He was nervous he said … Continue Reading
That’s that
I posted some impressions of our kissing date.
They are truth, those small snippets of heat and connection. Some sweet emails followed, his first immediately after our kissing date full of wonder and awe that matched mine.
But despite the flashes of intensity we shared, overall something wasn’t firing with us.
He is a smart, attractive man who was showing me lovely little glimpses of potential goodness both as a person and as a … Continue Reading
Antici…pation
I have organised a second date, a kissing date with the lovely boy I recently met.
I tweeted this yesterday while I was thinking about it:
Head full of kissing date possibilities. Anticipation might be one of my favourite things
— Ferns (@Ferns__) November 16, 2015
Text: “Head full of kissing date possibilities. Anticipation might be one of my favourite things”
I got a great question about it via my Ask Me page:
How … Continue Reading
Casual encounters
I wonder if my sex life would have been (be) radically different if I felt safe trying to get little snippets of what I want from casual partners, men I don’t know.
The safety aspect I mean here is not just about potential violence or sexual assault (though those are top-of-mind, of course), but about being able to have casual encounters play out in a way that works for me. Expecting that of a stranger … Continue Reading
1000th post!
This is my 1000th post on this blog. Holy fuck!
When I started this blog 6 years and 1 month ago (phew!), I wanted to show what a female dominant/male submissive relationship actually looks like when it’s in a context of love and complexity and real life. I was in a relationship with my boy then. You saw me navigate that relationship with passion and and were witness to my heartbreak when it ended. Since … Continue Reading
So, what’s goin’ on?
Come and have a seat and let me tell you what’s going on with me…
NOTHING!!
NOTHING IS GOING ON WITH ME!!!
*sigh*
So I’m going to hark back to some random things that I left hanging.
What happened to balloon guy?
He replied to my email quite politely, and it was clear that he was in fact skilled in cleaning (he ran some sort of office maintenance company), but the tone of his … Continue Reading