Toy inventory

Bright orange suitcase, shown closed, and open full of toys

When I wrote about strap-on harnesses (yeah, like anyone forgot, cock perves!), I took out my toybox (which I *wish* was a fabulous carved old wooden trunk that sat mysteriously in my bedroom all sexy-like, but is actually a bright orange lockable Samsonite suitcase that I hide under the bed) so that I could check the construction of one of my harnesses to answer a commenter’s post.

The suitcase has since been sitting in the … Continue Reading

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Understanding is hot

I am not a special flower in saying that most people I run into don’t understand me: I think pretty much everyone can say that. It’s why finding someone who ‘gets me’ is so powerful. We run around in the world making pleasant chit chat about chit chatty things and it is ‘nice’ and nobody really connects with anybody, and so it goes.

Sometimes we even convince ourselves that ‘nice’ is enough for a potential … Continue Reading

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A Domme’s vulnerability

After all the talk of the amazing openness and vulnerability that I wish for from my submissive, I’ve been considering posting something that shows me at my most vulnerable. It is scary, the showing, even though it doesn’t really matter because the actual terrifying part of doing it is already done, is over.

I rarely take emotional risks, and when I do, they are quiet risks, whispered into someone’s ear, tentatively put on the table … Continue Reading

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It’s all about me!

I finally put something more than ‘nothing’ in the About Me section here!

Because, you know, it’s all about me!

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Sunday curiosity #12

In this post, I am answering questions asked by the lovely N in the last Sunday curiosity comments.

“Were you always a “private player” (did I get that right?) or was there a time when you did enjoy playing at parties, gatherings and the like?

Yes, you got that right!! And no I wasn’t always. I actually started out playing in public, but I didn’t do it a lot because I learnt quite quickly that … Continue Reading

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Sunday curiosity #11

Thank you so much to those who asked questions… fun!! This ended up being a hugely long post!! Get coffee, and a packed lunch, and maybe some alcohol.

N: Have you ever “subbed”? :D

Yes, I have.

My first foray into real life BDSM was as a submissive after exploring my dominant side online. My femsub friend and I met a very experienced maledom in a chat room and agreed to meet him. I … Continue Reading

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Sunday curiosity #10

My very first curiosity post was waaaay back at the end of 2009. It was the first time I invited you to ask me questions… I mean, who the hell is this ‘Ferns’ anyway?! Her ‘About Me‘ information totally sucks and she pretends like she is going to actually write something there BUT SHE NEVER DOES!!!

Given I am shamelessly asking you to answer questions about yourselves in my survey, I thought it … Continue Reading

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