In this post, I am answering questions asked by the lovely N in the last Sunday curiosity comments.
“Were you always a “private player” (did I get that right?) or was there a time when you did enjoy playing at parties, gatherings and the like?
Yes, you got that right!! And no I wasn’t always. I actually started out playing in public, but I didn’t do it a lot because I learnt quite quickly that I struggle to get what I want out of it.
The very first time I played was in public (go me! I was so
Soon after that, I started going to a public BDSM club that was regularly run and I played there a few times but not a lot. I also joined a private BDSM club, which had entry by interview only, and played maybe once at one of their parties.
The only reason I would play in public now is if I wanted to have the freedom to make noise that would cause a problem at home.
Did you ever top a girl? If so, how did it make you feel (aroused, repulsed, neutral)?
I never have, no, though I have been topped by a woman once.
She was a fabulous pro-Domme who topped men for money and women for fun. I asked her if she would give me a flogging one night at the BDSM club. She happily obliged. Maybe I should write about it.
And of course, the ever-present question of why you and your boy broke up, but I suppose I won’t get an answer there, and I can understand why.:)
*laugh* Quite right, you won’t. Maybe at some stage I will talk about it, but it’s not very interesting anyway. Logistics.
Thanks, N, for the questions!
If anyone else want to ask anything, please feel free to do so in the comments. I like questions, they make me feel all warm and fuzzy.