So… ghosting is an acceptable thing now

ghosting ghost·ing \ ˈgō-stiŋ \ noun … 2. the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication. It’s been a thing for a long time, the origins of the term date back to 2006, and it was added to the Merriam-Webster dictionary in February this year.  What has changed, and what I’m seeing more of lately, is people strenuously defending ghosting as a perfectly valid and acceptable relationship-ending option, […]

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I feel brittle. I don’t know why exactly. Well I guess I know why, I just don’t want to say so. Not just brittle, but spiky. Edgy. Fragile. Irritated and impatient. Breakable.  I’m busy being busy. Doing all the things, and doing nothing, making noise for myself, distracting myself from whatever is going on.  It works for the most part.  But I am caught in a quiet moment right now. […]

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“Not dressing men”

“Not dressing men” is the super-smart tagline attached to these stunning shots advertising women’s suits. The marketing is by suit maker SuiStudio, whose traditional line is for men.  That it plays beautifully into the CFNM (Clothed Female Naked Male) kink is a complete coincidence…     Edited to add this one:  All images from SuiStudio.  […]

I forgive you

I call it forgiveness, but it’s not. Not really. Intellectually, I can say ‘I forgive you’ and I can even think that it’s true and that I mean it. You are sorry, I see that, I’m a generous person, I want to move past it, I forgive you. But the emotional truth is that I don’t forgive you. I don’t think I’m capable of it, or at least I don’t think so anymore. If it’s big and hurtful and egregious, […]

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“He never looks at her the way he looked at me”

Public domain mark'Untitled' by aliceabc0

I have thought that of the men I have loved.  Along with “He never talks about her the way he talked about me” and “He never treats her the way he treated me”. All thoughts bound up in love and nostalgia and memories. But mostly, in those moments of brutal honesty, I know it’s pure ego with more than a touch of smug satisfaction. I touched those intimate parts of him, […]

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Light my fire

My body is on hiatus. Maybe it’s been the stress of an uncertain living situation for so long and then the actual move. Or maybe it’s recent disappointments worming their way into my psyche. I don’t know. If I had a penis, pretty sure I’d be going through some kind of erectile dysfunction issue right now.  I try to masturbate every day. Usually in the morning before I get up. […]

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Femdom in advertising

We’ve seen a lot of it, mostly in fashion and music.  We tend to think it’s a relatively recent phenomenon in marketing (though Unspeakable Axe has been posting ‘Found Femdom‘ in mainstream media for years).  This ad campaign is from 2004. Umbro Vigo is a sports brand, and this ‘Sado’ series to advertise footwear is by a Brazilian agency. Stereotypical: yes. Exploitative: sure. But say what you want, […]

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