How great would it be if…

… the accounts with a label of ‘dominant woman’ that have obviously stolen super-hot pictures and wank-text would all hook up with the mindless horny idiots who drool over them. Online-only, of course, because duh. Those dudes could wank away together forever with the hot sexy chat and stupidity and be perfectly happy and leave the rest of us alone. Case in point: *’Woman’ […]

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End of year roundup: Top five plus nude

As a proper blogger (shut up, I am!), I’m supposed to do some kind of summary, maybe some stats, deep thoughts for the year, some goals for next year, that sort of thing. Maybe even *gasp* GRAPH PORN! But I’m spectacularly unmotivated to do any of that, so instead, here is a list of my most popular posts of 2016:  When your submissive says ‘no’ Advice for the newly minted submissive man seeking What happens if your submissive disobeys? Which strap-on harness? User names and you…  And since I’m much too lazy to do a proper roundup, […]

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Heart stabbing

‘Stabbed Heart’ by Hersson Piratoba

I have a theory about how a lot of us deal with relationships that we know aren’t working, or that won’t work, can’t work. When we feel connected to someone, not even ‘in love’ (though love makes it worse), just… connected somehow, we hang on even when we know we shouldn’t. Maybe it’s a long term relationship that is well past it’s expiration date. […]

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“No man will ever have this…”

When I was a lesbian, one of the things that turned me on, wildly and stupidly, was the thought that ‘no man will ever have this…’ When we tangled up together, all long limbs and smooth skin, when I traced her amazing breasts, when she thrust her cunt into my mouth, when she reached to kiss me, […]

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How far away is ‘too far’?

For me, distance is a practical problem: A logistical and financial hurdle for a relationship, not a show stopper. The must-have for it to grow, though, is communication that works extraordinarily well from afar. And by that I don’t mean ‘being able to string articulate sentences together’, I mean ‘being able to reach out in a way that fires me up, […]

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The other day…

The other day, I wrote about you, quiet words just for me. My journal is heavy with the weight of thousands upon thousands of quiet words. And loud words. And sweet ones. Angry ones. Violent ones. Broken ones. I couldn’t remember your name. It was a shock. A physical shock. I felt it in the pit of my stomach. […]

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Emotion-building

I think sometimes that I am not built for emotions.  I either feel nothing, or I feel too much.  Mostly it’s nothing. That’s the truth. I have joked before that I’m ‘dead inside’. I don’t know why I would make that joke. It’s not even remotely funny. But then I can also be overwhelmed by emotional input. And honestly, […]

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Scaling the wall

When I talk with lovely submissive men, the ones who have wonderful qualities, the ones who I should fit with because they are perfect on paper, I want to tell them how to scale my walls.  If you’ve ever been into rock climbing you know exactly what I mean.  “No, up, the hand hold is there on your left, […]

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Dominant roots

A question on Fetlife:  Is your dominance shaped by a reaction against anything? The answer to this is complicated. I think we all look back into our past for confirmation of ‘who we are’, so there is a lot of bias in that kind of hindsight. Sexually I vividly remember rape play with barbie and ken dolls (my sister was horrified and never let me play with hers again), […]

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