What are you interested in?

What interests you with your submissive?

I get this question quite a lot. It’s a reasonable one.

The first thing is that I don’t care about ‘what he will do for me’. Can he cook, can he wield a power drill, can he build things, can he give me a pedicure? Don’t care. It’s stupid. Those are useful skills of course, but in the scheme of things they aren’t partner-makers. And any smart person can learn skills.

I also don’t care about ‘what will I do to him’ stuff. The acts, the fetishes, the play. Absolutely we have to be … Continue Reading

Loves: 17
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Corsetry: Red or blue?

© 'Corsets' by & of Ferns, Domme Chronicles

I’m going to a BDSM event next week.

To be clear, I never go to BDSM events.

I think the last time I went to a BDSM club was Paddles in New York, and that was a gazillion years ago.

But I had a very uncharacteristic bout of social energy last month, so here we are.

I had to dig around to find my corsets since that’s about it for fetish gear I own (oh, and heels, though I’d argue that none of them are pure fetish-wear). I have two amazingly gorgeous steel-boned corsets from Timeless Trends and a … Continue Reading

Loves: 16
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I believe you the first time

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
— Maya Angelou

This is a timeless quote. I wholeheartedly believe in it.

I sometimes have interactions with potential partners, submissive men, natch, who do something egregious early on in our correspondence.

And that’s it, I’m out.

I know it sounds harsh, and it is.

If someone lies to me, is disrespectful, is mean, ignores my boundaries, expresses some offensive view, is shitty in some way, I believe it is exactly what it is. There’s no ‘there’ there, no secret to uncover. It is what it is.

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Loves: 17
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Yes, it’s about you

I’ve mentioned quite a few times that I’m a bit like a stereotypical man when it comes to orgasms. I come once, hard, and then I lose interest. I’m done.

When I came at least twice with him each time, my pleasure was multiplied by watching him realise that that was about him.

It was not ‘a thing’ he did (though there was that too), it was just… him. And I could see the realisation dawn on him over the short time we had together.

‘I did this…’

‘She’s not normally like this… I’m sure she said that…’

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Loves: 11
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6’2 female Viking warrior

Ragga Ragnar as Gunnhild, Vikings S05

Her full name is Ragnheiður Ragnarsdóttir. Her acting name is Ragga Ragnars.

She is 6’2, Icelandic, a former Olympic swimmer.

In Vikings Season 5, she is nothing short of magnificent as Gunnhild, the Viking warrior who stands toe-to-toe with the formidable Björn Ironside, and she is 100% not putting up with his bullshit.

Enjoy :).… Continue Reading

Loves: 8
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BDSM house for sale

Speaking of BDSM in the mainstream, this real estate listing in Maple Glen, PA. went out with photos of their fully furnished dungeon basement in it.

It went viral, which obviously shows the titillation value of it and no doubt achieved the agent’s goal of maximum exposure.

The real estate sites, though, did take the photos down after it got a lot of publicity, so the pearl-clutchers were close at hand to shut it down when they got wind of it :/.

You (yes you! :P) have two options here:

1. Buy this house for $750K (5 bedroom, 2.5 … Continue Reading

Loves: 8
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On beautiful submissive men

© 'Submissive men: A celebration of beauty (video still)' by Ferns

Years ago, I created a tribute to the beauty of submissive men, with contributions from submissive men and from those who love them. It is still my most favourite project, and illustrates, truly, how the nature of beauty is so much more complex than it seems on the surface.

This video is the result of those generous contributions.

Submissive men: A celebration of beauty

Let me say this without any slight on him: My last submissive was not a conventionally handsome man. He was not the kind of man who would attract surreptitious admiring looks when he walked down the … Continue Reading

Loves: 18
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