Femdom in Second Life: Roth

I still haven’t ventured into the femdom sims since I last posted about femdom in Second Life, for the record. Instead I am trying my hand at adding scripts to simple objects because I’m curious and it’s fun to learn new things. RLV scripts, to be specific.

WHAT HAS THIS GOT TO DO WITH FEMDOM, FERNS? JFC?!!

Patience, grasshopper.

RLV stands for Restrained Love Viewer.

RLV (Restrained Love Viewer) enhances your Second Life experience by adding extra features to your viewer. With these features in game scripted objects can control and restrict your avatar from performing specified actions. In fact RLV adds more commands for scripters to use in their creations.

RLV essentially allows you to control someone else’s avatar in various ways, in effect making you the puppeteer and them the puppet, and when objects have RLV scripts in them, you can use objects to ‘capture’ people and trap them. If I can add RLV scripts to random objects, I’m essentially building a robot army :D.

You start to see now, right? For hot little role plays and much much more, this opens up a world of possibilities.

So to Roth.

You might think ‘Oh Ferns got up to some sexy shenanigans by making a submissive do stuff!’ but depending on your perspective, I’m about to exceed or fall well short of your expectations :).

Roth works from home and was, by habit, logging into Second Life in the morning and just… staying logged in. His avatar sitting in a femdom sim, half-distracted by sexily-clad dominant types talking about play, having various little chats, listening to group conversations, perving on the newest pair of hot boots on that perfect image of a woman, appreciating that fabulous outfit or hot take on femdom, and etc. Not enjoying it exactly, not making connections really, just being there and being easily distracted by it. All day.

So we talked about it and I said I could help him break the habit.

After discussing the emotional risks of it, he agreed.

We had slightly different motivations for this.

Me, I enjoy helping help people I like, and breaking bad habits is something I can and will help friends with, and I absolutely thought it would be fun. There is a D/s component to it because we negotiated that I had the right to use the tools at my disposal to get it done.

Roth, well he has a soft spot for me, and this was both an opportunity to engage with me further, plus the D/s part is a kick, not least because being restricted/controlled is one of his kinks.

So, win-win.

And no, I did not do a bunch of sex chat and sexy avatar role play. What I did was use RLV to completely lock him down in Second Life. That may sound all sexy-like and there is a mental/emotional component to it because control is hot and close-making, but it’s not ‘role play’.

What does it actually look like?

I restricted his use of SL completely so that when he logs into SL, his avatar is kneeling and literally locked in a cage in my SL home.

Spot the boy in the cage (then spot the OTHER two cages :P)
Spot the boy in the cage (then spot the OTHER two cages :P)

I took away his ability to go anywhere: He can’t leave the spot I put him in, in his case, it’s a cage in my SL home. He can’t leave.

I took away his ability to hear: He can’t see if anyone is text-chatting in public spaces, he can’t receive DMs from anyone.

I took away his ability to talk: He’s effectively gagged, so he can’t send public or private messages to anyone. There’s a visual gag on his avatar’s mouth, but it’s unnecessary to set the restrictions, it’s only for the aesthetics.

I took away his sight: As we progressed, I took away his ability to see anything. When he logs in, his screen is black.

The cage, the gag, the blindfold are all entirely unnecessary for this to work: They are just for the aesthetics, because they’re fun.

Something else that was fun was moving his cage while he wasn’t there so when he logged in and landed in it, he found himself hanging outside the apartment in the rain, which is hilarious to me, for I am amused by this kind of silliness :D.

And while ‘being locked down by a hot dominant woman’ may sound kind of awesome for a second, it gets boring very fast if the reality is that when you log in, you literally can’t do anything except sit there and stare at a black screen.

So he logs in, he can’t do anything and he can’t see anything. So he logs out.

He can chat with me, of course, and when we’re in SL together. I take off his blindfold and we chat, sometimes we go exploring, I try out various RLV tools on him to see how they work. It’s fun and we get along well, there is a personal connection there that obviously support the D/s, the control, and the end goal.

Same as in the real world, there IS a way for him to get out of this if he really wants to, but of course he doesn’t want to and he won’t.

After a couple of weeks, he was finding himself much more productive, finding other things to do instead of wasting time doing ‘nothing much’ in SL, and feeling generally better.

Roth: The increasing restriction in SL has so vastly improved my attitude toward — and relationship with — SL. I want to thank you as I feel “cured” — “freed” is probably a better word — of my SL habit. I haven’t had any desire to log in and that is really liberating. Thank you so much for being so kind and generous to help get me sorted.

Emotionally, there is a bonding in it because the restrictions are real and cause real life changes, which we talk about to make sure we’re still on the same page.

It’s coming up to a month now and I’ve offered to take the restrictions off to test if his habit is truly broken, but he likes them so I’m happy to leave them in place for now.

We will test them though. I mean, but we can’t know for sure until we do.

So my ‘femdom in Second Life’ experience is ‘getting someone out of Second Life’. Pretty sure that’s not how you’re supposed to do it, but here we are :).

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21 comments

  1. Oh, it has been so long since I’ve logged into SL last time… RLV is definitely fun, though some viewers allow you to dethatch it (or, at least, that’s how it used to be some 6-7 years ago when I was using Firestorm). But your story are certainly gives me a strong urge to try it again, Ma’am! Perhaps, I should consider it :D

    1. My understanding is that you can still turn off RLV altogether in your viewer if you want out. I know some people with velcro collars end up in the forums with ‘my mistress who I met 2 seconds ago locked me into a collar and hasn’t logged in for a month. Halp!’ :DD

      Ferns

    1. It is :). Especially for a really old one (2008!).

      I looked for the best and newest femdom-related pictures (some SL photographers take astoundingly good pics), but the newer ones were all copyrighted.

      Ferns

  2. Nice, that brings back some nice memories. Way back when I was doing SL, RLV was new and just starting to be used. It was a very nice way to be controlled, in a very real feeling way, within the SL world. It sounds even better now…

    1. I’m glad it brings back good memories :).

      I think the tech changes have been astounding.

      I really have no idea what’s possible now compared to then because I’m only scratching the surface (but none of this functionality is new: I had these tools in my inventory from way back when), but I imagine it’s a lot more sophisticated and there’s much more scope if I dig around.

      Ferns

  3. When I was last on SL (6 or 7 years ago), Femdom seemed to be just starting. There seemed to be a lot more male led BDSM with female subs, so I had a difficult time finding women who enjoyed dominating men. Most of the time I hung out with “switch” women, but I was lucky to meet one who collared me and introduced me to RLV. She seemed to have a lot of fun creating my avatar and choosing my penis (it took a while for me to learn how to control it).
    Using RLV she had me stay in her house as a naked “house-boy,” always waiting for her to return from where-ever she went. She had a dungeon where she often caged me or paddled me.
    One day she bought me a butt-plug with a bell on it, but it was incompatible with my penis- so whenever she wanted me to wear it, I had no penis…
    I too eventually left SL after most of the women I followed left and I was wondering around SL BDSM areas looking for a Mistress.
    I wonder if it is easier now to find a willing Domme on SL?

    1. You’d be mistaken about femdom in SL ‘just starting’ 6-7 years ago. 10-11 years ago, it was already well established, so I guess you were looking in the wrong places.

      The language of SL is hilarious to me: “she bought me a butt-plug with a bell on it, but it was incompatible with my penis- so whenever she wanted me to wear it, I had no penis…” LOL.

      “I wonder if it is easier now to find a willing Domme on SL?”

      I suspect it’s not any easier (Roth contacted me on Fetlife, for the record), and if I think about it for a hot minute, I suspect it might even be harder now. SL isn’t in its heyday any more (a quick search suggests that in 2013 they had a million active monthly users, and a couple of years ago, it was about half that). If that’s right, I expect that’s reflected in the femdom communities.

      Ferns

      1. Thank you Ms. Ferns. I am grateful that my butt-plug experiences amused you. It also amused my SL Mistress. She liked to put it in me and then tease me about it.
        I have to admit that I enjoyed being her “Manpet” (that’s what she called me), in a way that I am not sure can be replicated in real life. When she created my avatar she gave me a body I would not have chosen myself- creating a manpet to please her, not me.
        I actually started on SL in 2010! And, I have to admit that you are right, there was a robust femdom community even then. I found a couple of Femdom Groups early on (but cannot remember the names). I just found it very difficult to learn the rules- and most of the mistresses in the group had a harem of slaves. It was very hard to meet anyone there. That’s why I ended up going to other smaller groups that were more BDSM.

  4. “well he has a soft spot for me”
    …who DOESN’T have a soft spot for you, Ferns?! ;-)

    The whole concept of SL always eluded me (GF a loooong time ago worked with the company) but…femdom?! Well, then. I may just have to look into it now.

    1. Everyone clearly *should* have a soft spot for me: Those are the rules! :P

      SL is an odd beast and fascinating for all sorts of reasons. Chat rooms on steroids, with graphics of the fantasy-person you always wished you could be (the endless variety of looks and the choices people make is interesting for a whole set of *other* reasons. I saw an unbearably cute ‘bunneh’ girl the other day, complete with large twitching ears and bouncy bunny tail: Completely adorable. I wonder ‘who are you behind there and where did the bunny-girl come from?’).

      Ferns

  5. An acquaintance suggests you swing by the Twisted Orchid club Ferns, it’s European times apparently so might be a problem for you. It’s apparently the oldest BDSM club in SL, I don’t remember it personally, but then by tea time I’m not sure what was for breakfast these days.
    Coug

    1. Oh! How is it that I’ve never heard of it? I figure there are few enough big femdom sims that you’d kind of hear about them all sooner or later!

      If I ever actually, you know, feel like TALKING to people, I’ll check it out :).

      Ferns

  6. You practically freed him from addiction. There is something of medicine or witchcraft in this.

    1. Escorted out the door with the other trash :).

      I’m okay; Stuff going on here, hence my silence, but I’m okay. Hope all is good with you over there.

      Ferns

  7. Sameo Sameo, getting crabbier by the day. Hope it’s good stuff going on, if not hope it passes quickly for you
    Coug

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