Reader Q&A: Dominant women struggle, turn-ons, limerence [audio]


In this exciting instalment of the Q&A, I answer questions about the following:

  • Getting my long term vanilla husband into BDSM
  • Young domme has shitty experiences and I get fist-wavey about it
  • Tasks?
  • Turned on by wife’s pre-marriage affair
  • Hot scene in Blade: unf!
  • Discipline: what do you do?
  • Limerence: how do you deal?

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Reader Q&A: Letting your guard down, being badmouthed [audio]


In this episode of ‘Ferns does Q&A’, we have the following:

  • How can I learn to let my guard down?
  • The elusive ‘good femdom porn’…
  • Play ideas?
  • Reader loveliness: thank you!
  • Being badmouthed by an ex
  • Sydney University!

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Reader Q&A podcast: Domme with vanilla-ish partner [audio]


A novice Domme has a partner who she loves, they are compatible in all ways, except for in kink. She’s not confident that he’s really into the BDSM that she enjoys and she’s not quite sure what to do about it.


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Q&A: Reconciling dominance and love

This from r/FemdomCommunity (edited).

Fellow dommes, how do you reconcile the need for dominance and power with the need for support and love in a relationship?

I’m fairly new to BDSM and have never experienced it in a relationship of any kind. I’ve had relationships, and I’ve played plenty, but never with the same people. I know others do it all the time, but in my mind I can’t envison how it’s possible…

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Reader Q&A: How to make someone cry

Dear Ferns,

I am a very inexperienced novice dom and I recently met this guy who is willing to submit to me. I liked him so we tested the water. Although the scene was tough for him, he didn’t cry, not a single tear. I tried my best to humiliate him since I was looking forward to seeing his crumpling face with tears and whimpering, but found out he doesn’t feel that humiliated easily.

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Reader Q&A: How to reject someone

So I just had a scene with a perfectly nice sub boy, after which he left all smiles and eager to do it again, and I felt … kind of awful and have no interest in seeing him again. I don’t know why, nothing went wrong, and it’s never been an issue with previous people, so that’s upsetting in itself, but now I’m feeling weird and awkward about how to tell him there will be

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“Only submissive to someone special…”

There are a large number of newbie submissive men who seem to think they are the odd one out if they don’t just submit to everyone.

Usually those observations have this hideously aggravating flavour of special snowflakedness. They display a stereotypical view that has obviously come from a lack of experience or exposure to real life D/sers, and that has much to do with online silliness and I DON’T EVEN KNOW WHAT (you KNOW I …

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