The Englishman

Note: This femdom dating not-dating story is not current. I found it in my drafts, and you start to see now why I have so many drafts…

He’s 6’3, 32, super cute, fit, intelligent, articulate. And on another continent. Which is par for the course with me it seems.

We have lightly corresponded on Collarspace on and off for a few years. More off than on. His profile popped up on my page again and I re-read it: It’s smart and thoughtful (still).

I sent him a note, as one of us does every few months:

Hello there,

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Loves: 11
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Woman woman

© 'Diana Gordon, Woman [still from video]'

My new anthem.
(THIS is the song I was looking for when I became smitten by Song Of Women and posted that instead).

Woman, woman
Got a whole lot of nerve, she the flame in the fire
She’s a lover and a fighter and a king and a mother
Turn a boy to a man, build a whole empire
That woman got a story
With her halo standing in her glory

Woman woman
Take a trip to the moon on the curves of her body
One hand on her pussy and the other on a Harley
She could dance all … Continue Reading

Loves: 7
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Later that afternoon

Public domain mark'Bike, sea' by Unknown

Cycling north along the beach with the wind at our backs, the sun shining, and the surf endlessly rolling in, we could only just see our destination. The headland, far off in the distance, the salty haze making it shimmer in the distance. There was almost nobody around. Someone walking their dog, another person fishing, a surfer out the back of the break. Then miles of empty beach.

I always like the idea of a bike ride a lot more than I like any actual bike ride, and this time was no different. Even with the breeze behind us, the … Continue Reading

Loves: 22
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e[lust] #131

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Loves: 2
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Sometimes, he melts

Three ice creams

As an additional comment to this long-ago post about my telling a submissive man I’m smitten by that he’s beautiful, about his reaction to hearing it, I’m surprised that I didn’t mention that sometimes, he melts.

Sometimes I say the words and I see in his response a wordless kind of breaking down, a softening, a downing of walls, an internal sigh of surrender.

Getting him to that unguarded state is not so difficult: It can come from intensity, from sensation, from relentless attack. When all of his senses have been overloaded, when everything comes down, THEN he melts.

But … Continue Reading

Loves: 11
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My sent emails LVI

I normally don’t give context for these, but this one needs context.

I had literally not heard from this submissive in 9 months. In our last correspondence he’d said he would be up my way soon and I said I’d consider meeting. He’d also said he’d done a reading and offered to send it to me. Then he never followed up with either of those. In fact, I never heard from him again.

I didn’t care much, I wasn’t invested: It’s par for the course and I thought no more of it.

But he contacted me again NINE MONTHS LATER, … Continue Reading

Loves: 10
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Should I pay tribute?

There are a LOT of questions everywhere all the time from new submissives asking whether paying a tribute is a normal thing when looking for a personal or love-based F/m relationship.

Why do they ask this?

Often it’s because they’ve already handed over some money to someone and instead of it leading to a meeting and the start of a beautiful relationship, it led to, you guessed it, a request for more money. Or they’ve talked to any number of dominant women and at some point in the conversation, they all asked for money.

When it’s raised in discussions, some … Continue Reading

Loves: 5
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