I’m in a femdom relationship: Is this abuse?

This landed via my Ask Me page and I absolutely didn’t want to wait to answer it in my next podcast because it needs a timely response.


I am in a 1 & 1/2 year old relationship first time with a domme who is also a sadist and I am a submissive and okay with a bit of pain play.

We are living in together & things were going okay but one day I was pretty late from work and didn’t pick any of her calls. Naturally she was pissed and when I arrived home, she slapped and … Continue Reading

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Happy Femdom Stories Volume 2 is out!

Happy Femdom Stories V2

I’m delivering happies!!

In case you aren’t aware, I’ve been collecting real-life stories from folks in happy F/m relationships as part of my ‘happy femdom project‘ for quite a few years now. I released Happy Femdom Stories Volume 1 about a year ago and I’m so delighted to have 25 more wonderful stories to share in Volume 2.

We don’t hear enough about real femdom relationships: Not fantasy, not porn, but genuine folks sharing their stories of finding each other and building their unique femdom relationships. The stories are hopeful and uplifting and happy-making.

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Loves: 5
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Reader Q&A: Podcast #103 [Audio]

Music by M.M.

Reader Q&A: Podcast #103 [Audio]

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This podcast Q&A includes the following:

  • New books out soon! ‘Happy Femdom Stories Vol 2‘ & ‘Rage: A Femdom Story
  • Using me as a hookup service (pro-tip: Don’t)
  • New Domme: Halp!
  • Submissive man introducing vanilla partner
  • Can a Domme be an extrovert?
  • Kneeling and knee strain
  • When he wants more (and more and more…)
  • Heathen chocolate?
  • Cock sucking sub: yay or nay?
  • Lesbian sub trying to find a Domme
  • And more!

The Domme Chronicles podcast is available on iTunes, so you can subscribe to it if you want to be sure to get my audio porn delivered straight to your ear holes.


Want to ask me something? Pop on over to my Ask Me page and do it (though if it’s something time-critical, I suggest you ask your question pretty much anywhere else…!). It’s completely anonymous, even to me, so nobody will know it was you…


Full transcript after the jump…

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Rage & happies, #dommelife

© Sharyn Ferns (I've been writing: Read more about this below!)

Summer isn’t here yet, but it’s coming with a vengeance. Around 35C (95F) these last couple of days, a lazy heat-haze hanging thick over the water. It shouldn’t officially be hot for another month, but here we are.

I’m back to light sarongs, wide-open windows to try and catch cool-ish breezes, blessed iced coffee in the mornings.

As for #dommelife, hmmm…

I’ve been doing some more study this year: Finished a 2 year web technology course in 7 months with my final subject completed at the end of September. I had been alternatively cruising, then smashing out subjects really quickly … Continue Reading

Loves: 7
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Happy Femdom Story: Henry & Cathy

Henry’s happy femdom story is a sweet tribute to his wife, Cathy. He describes one of those F/m relationships where the relationship evolves from fun with kink in the bedroom to an exploration of FLR (Female Led Relationship) elements. To their delight they have found a balance that works wonderfully for both of them.

Enjoy :).

Author: Henry

I think there might be a point to start, not with the beginning for me and my wife, but with the end. True to the general theme of this compilation, our story is a happy femdom relationship. Could I have anticipated … Continue Reading

Loves: 4
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e[lust] #111

Welcome to Elust 111

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #112? Start with the rules, come back November 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!


~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

The Promotion

Getting Lost in a Good Book


~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~


9 Things New Sex Bloggers Need to Know


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Cougarling: Epilogue

© 'cougarling, August 2018' Rope, photo, effects by Ferns

I said in my last post about the cougarling’s visit that he never replied to the ‘thank you’ email I sent him a few days after we parted.

I was concerned that I’d left him with hurt or anger or bad feelings, and thought that his lack of reply may have been a reflection of that.

But he did reply, finally, and long after I had reconciled myself to not hearing from him again.

I was surprised, not least because it was super sweet, lovely.

At my best, I hope that men I have had in my life in some … Continue Reading

Loves: 24
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