How to find a finsub: Part 1

I have a finsub now. I guess that makes me a findom.

Typing that feels odd. And I suspect whatever you are imagining about how it works for me is probably not how it works.

Let me go back a step, talk about how this happened.

Firstly, I wasn’t looking for a financial submissive (finsub). I’m not a financial Domme (findom), have never been a findom, no matter how you define it (see here for an explanation of financial domination if you aren’t familiar with the term).

Financial control has never been a part of any relationship I’ve been in.… Continue Reading

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e[lust] #121

Welcome to Elust 121

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~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Breathe with me

DID and Relationships: It’s Complicated!

Neck constriction, choking and death

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Her Future Husband

Secretary

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

It’s the humiliation

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Blooming randomness

© 'Ferns & orchids' by and of Ferns and her blooming babe

I had five social events and numerous phone calls in the week around my birthday. FIVE!

It is amazing to me that people want to spend time with me (I am a bad friend/daughter/sister etc, for the most part), and I am grateful for their perseverance, as much as I find the socialising exhausting.

I could pretend that the over-peopling is the reason I’ve kind of shut down, because I have shut down. But it’s not that. That doesn’t help of course, but it’s not the cause.

A kind of malaise has settled over me. It is soft and … Continue Reading

Loves: 16
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Birthday nude: Phenomenal woman

© 'Ferns nude crouching, censored' by and of Ferns

Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
the need for my care.
Because I’m a woman.
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
All you women, and me.
― from Phenomenal Woman, Maya Angelou

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Loves: 177
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Femdom dating: Ebbs and flows

There is a very predictable ebb and flow to my dating endeavors.

I will do a flurry of activity, reaching out, meeting people, engaging positively.

And then I am done.

Like… really done.

I’m exhausted by the effort involved in trawling web sites, in engaging with potential partners, in the social exchange, in meeting up, in all the mental and emotional work involved in it.

I will give it a solid go for a hot minute, then I need to hide in my cave for a while, regroup, cycle up some energy for the next round.

I’m in the trough … Continue Reading

Loves: 17
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e[lust] #120

Welcome to Elust 120

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~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

In full swing

The Hunter

[Sexuality] The Pain of Tolerance

 

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

First Ritual

Being Overlooked

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

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That time I dumped George Clooney

That first vanilla date had promise, but of course when I write I do not tell you everything.

I don’t write narratives, a list of facts, a blow-by-blow. I write, as best I can, an emotional truth. To tell you how things feel to me, what’s in my head. A truth, but not the whole truth in context and with detail because for those moments, it’s not relevant.

So let me fill in some gaps: There were practical issues with George Clooney. I mean, apart from the ‘he’s vanilla’ one. He has children under 10, a complicated relationship with … Continue Reading

Loves: 16
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