Liars and not-liars

Femdom dating is a crap shoot, emphasis on the ‘crap’ sometimes.

I’m not sure I ever wrote about the submissive in the US I said “No thanks” to.

He emailed me, was too young, had no way to afford even a single visit. He was just curious and wanted online attention and shenanigans while pretending he wanted something else.

After I said ‘no thank you’, he contacted me using another name, same IP address (amateur mistake). When I challenged him, he said, “No no I’m just staying with that other guy you talked to, I’m definitely not HIM! I live … Continue Reading

24/7 D/s vs FLR: What’s the difference?

There were some conversations on Twitter today about the difference between a 24/7 D/s dynamic and a Female Led Relationship (FLR).

An expanded version of my tweet-thoughts on this below.

The upshot: To me they’re the same thing.

My goal is a 24/7 D/s dynamic.

In my 24/7 D/s dynamic (when I have one), I have the authority in our relationship.

I lead, he follows.

There may be carve-outs that we agree on: For example, I may not have authority over his work or family, we decide what works for us. And that may change over time.

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I’ll slap you!

I hovered my breast near his lips.

Reaching up to kiss my bare skin, his mouth travelled across the silky-smooth, pushing the lace of my bra out of his way with his lips, his tongue finding my hardening nipple. He nuzzled and licked, sucking it into his mouth.

I felt his teeth nibbling, teasing, some pressure as he pulled it further into the soft wetness, oh, and more, teeth closing a little further, harder against tender flesh, the tingle of it going straight to my cunt, more force still, even harder, and…

“Owww!” I yelled.

Releasing my nipple immediately, his … Continue Reading

Femdom-guided meditation: Femdom Podcast #110 [Audio]

Femdom-guided meditation: Femdom Podcast #110 [Audio]

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This femdom podcast is very different from my usual ‘Reader Q&A’.

I wanted to do something positive for you, my readers and listeners, who might be struggling right now. There is a lot of uncertainty and fear out there: These are scary times, and the worry about the escalating situation is very stressful for everybody. While there is not a lot I can do to change any of that, I can offer 10 minutes of respite … Continue Reading

Femdom sex sonnet: Audio reading

I was delighted to be the muse for this femdom sonnet by @SexSonnets: I love it, thank you so much :).

Words and visuals: His.

Voice and Australian non-accent: Mine.


The M’s reverberated from full lips.
The A’s resounded from a boy’s timid
Desire to please my own bethroned hips;
A shivered vowel stretched to limit.
“Yes Ma’am, I am” he so beamed from below.
We shared a glint of pulsing recognition.
I saw in him my need to so bestow
“My good boy” in dutiful submission.
I cupped his chin, a pinch to counter weight
Upon my

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e[lust] #128

Welcome to Elust 128

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #129? Start with the rules, come back April 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

I’m pansexual but I don’t feel LGBTQ+

Blindfold Surprise


~ Featured Posts by our Guest Editor (Sweetgirl’s Picks) ~

Lola in fishnets

I have selected this piece for two reasons; first of all I enjoyed it!  I was captivated by the story and relationship between the
characters from the start.  She set the scene beautifully and I could feel the excitement as “something tangible passes between them, this husband and wife who are becoming something else.’  Missy captured this moment brilliantly.   My final reason for selecting this is because I know Missy doubts her ability to write fiction, and this piece proves that is not the case.

Fact vs. Fiction in D/s

This post from Brigit does an excellent job of telling people not to try and get your D/s to look exactly like someone else’s, “Fiction can be a springboard, but ultimately, it is our job to create our own recipe for D/s.” This is something I don’t think can be said enough.   As Brigit reminds us, there is no right way, and no two dynamics are the same.  Fiction can open the door to kink but it isn’t a blueprint and shouldn’t be used as one.

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

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Love in the time of…

Public domain mark'Collage of book covers: Love in the time of cholera'

It’s hard to know what to do when you are overwhelmed by stress and fear and an uncertain future. I know many people are struggling emotionally, physically, financially. It’s an unprecedented situation and I’m flailing with the rest of you.

Here in Australia it feels like the end of times: Bushfires, floods, and now pestilence. Just, WTeverlovingF?!!

We are behind the curve on the spread of coronavirus/covid-19 in Australia, but our case trajectory is following a similar path to every other country. Theoretically it should be easier to manage: No shared borders, spread out population, good health care. But no. … Continue Reading