How to make your first BDSM scene amazing

This is my first ‘How To’ guide for new dominant women, and it’s designed as a bit of hand-holding for women who want practical information for their first foray into BDSM play.

Dominant women are strong and awesome and they WILL find their own way and their own style, but first times can be daunting for anyone, and getting practical help can be difficult. This is the book I wish I had when I first started … Continue Reading

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Cover colour for newest book: Input please [Poll Closed]

I’m trying to get my newest ‘How To’ Femdom guide done in the next week or so: The book is “How to Make Your First BDSM Scene Amazing” and it’s my first one for newbie dominant women.

I’m again using fabulous cover art by the talented Submissive Guy Comics, but I’m stuck on the colour and would love your input.

Initially I wanted to make the cover pink because it’s bright and fabulous. But then I worried that since it’s my first guide for women, people would think I did ‘pink because girls’ which I didn’t. But even just … Continue Reading

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Top Ten Tips For Finding A Dominant Woman

Copyright How To Find A Dominant Woman‘ by Sharyn Ferns, Cover art by Submissive Guy Comics

I talked about my book already, but I thought I’d share some highlights.

Firstly, I have to say that finding a partner is hard. Finding an F/m partner is even harder. It just is. Not just for submissive men, but for dominant women also, I should know (feel like I should start singing ‘Single Ladies’ now…).

Trust me, fabulous submissive men, we WANT to find you.

But in my experience, some submissive men who have the potential to be amazing partners get in … Continue Reading

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How To Find A Dominant Woman

Copyright How To Find A Dominant Woman‘ by Sharyn Ferns, Cover art by Submissive Guy Comics

Some version of ‘how do I find a dominant woman?’ is the most commonly asked question I see from submissive men both in my personal Q&A and on F/m internet forums.

Information and advice abounds on the topic: The main difficulty for someone trying to get help, though, is that it’s mostly in little snippets in random places with varying degrees of usefulness, so an actual cohesive answer to ‘yes, but what do I do?!’ is harder to find than you would think.… Continue Reading

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Free Book: Come get it!


The first in my ‘How To’ Femdom Series is How to Write An Awesome Online Profile: For Submissive Men, now available on Amazon.

It’s short, sharp, and practical and includes a before/after example. If you’re a submissive man stuck on writing your profile, or you just want to revamp what you have, this is a useful place to start.

As fabulously loyal readers, I’m giving you a second chance to get one for free if you missed out the first time. Did I say FREE?! Yes, yes I did!

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‘How To’ Femdom Series

Given I’m kind of paralysed with my writing here on the blog at the moment (bah!), I’ve decided to kick myself up the arse and start a new project.

I’m going to write a series of short, sharp ‘How To’ guides for new dominants and submissives based on questions I see in my Q&A repeatedly.

I think many questions that newbies have are universally common, and it would be great to have easily accessible resources that address them. I have already written about some of these (obviously, because many came in as Q&As), but the content is often piecemeal and … Continue Reading

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