How to handle disobedience

My new book (coming out soon!), How To Handle Disobedience, is for new dominant women who struggle with obedience in their femdom dynamic. It’s a deeper dive into the approach I outlined in this post, “What to do when your submissive says ‘no’” (one of my most popular posts).

I’ve been around for a long time, and one of the reasons I started my ‘How To’ Femdom Series was to give down-to-earth practical help to newbies, both dominant women and submissive men.

Rather than giving some high level ‘whole of dynamic’ advice, I honed in on issues that I see coming up over and over for newbies. Topics I’ve talked about here on my blog, but that really need a lot more detail than I can cover here to be truly useful.

There is a ton of information out there on the internet, but a lot of it is frustratingly vague for the very good reason that everyone is different and what works for one may not work for another. That’s absolutely true of course, but when I was a baby Domme, I just wanted someone to TELL ME WHAT TO DO. Then I’d have a solid starting point from which I could evolve and grow as I learned more.

My ‘How To’ guides are exactly that: Short, sharp, practical starting points for newbies finding their feet.

I’ve published three books in the ‘How To’ Femdom Series so far:
How To Write An Awesome Online Profile for submissive men
How To Find A Dominant Woman for submissive men
How To Make Your First BDSM Scene Amazing for dominant women

How To Handle Disobedience for dominant women‘ will be my fourth in the series. I see some version of the question ‘What do I do if my submissive disobeys?’ over and over. I’m here to help.

Obviously I’ll be announcing it the minute it’s available :).

I will be offering free review copies to a select few folks on my mailing list, so if you want in on that action, join up here.

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  1. I can’t wait. I’m so excited to have another one of your books! Even as a lesbian submissive I often find I can relate to the experiences and wisdom you share. I am your biggest fan!!!!! Okay well, not your biggest since I am short.

    “There is a ton of information out there on the internet, but a lot of it is frustratingly vague”

    The information out there on the internet for lesbian submissives is absolutely zero. I’ve tried over and over again. That is why I find your blog and your books so helpful because the way in which you write, the experiences you share, can be applied in all styles of the D/s dynamic. Thank you again for your commitment to helping the D/s community.


    1. I’m glad you’ve found them helpful :).

      I think dominant women and submissive men face some very particular issues in their relationships and dynamics, but a lot of the principles are absolutely more widely applicable.

      And thank you for being my biggest little fan :).


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