My second Masocast interview is live (the first is here)!!
Edited to add: All of my Masocast interviews can be found here (yes, I did more :)).
A wonderfully sweet benefactor offered for-real moneys to ask me some very interesting and thoughtful questions, I spill my guts, laugh a lot, and blather more, and the lovely Axe pretends he isn’t just talking to me for the money!
I also do an audio reading of … Continue Reading
In my personal ad, I describe myself as “difficult’ (among other things). This is not a cute way of pretending I am some badass bitch. I’m not.
But boy, am I particular.
And in the context of getting to know someone, there seems to be a very narrow set of things that ‘work’ for me.
There are some things that hit me just right, that make me laugh out loud, that make me do … Continue Reading
I wonder sometimes if I will ever be able to live with anyone again.
I have lived with people before of course. In my early post-parental-home life, it was flatmates. I moved in with my first partner when I was about 24. Since then, I’ve preferred to live alone rather than share a home with anyone I wasn’t sleeping with. Barring extraordinary circumstances, I will never again live with anyone who isn’t my partner.
My … Continue Reading
Vulnerability is the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness.
It’s also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love.– Brene Brown, Power of Vulnerability (TED talk)
I struggle with making myself vulnerable. It’s no secret.
I’ve talked about it before in different ways: With some depth here, and more recently here.
I feel vulnerable at times, of course, but I show it very selectively, with reluctance, … Continue Reading
A reader question:
“In a recent thread on FetLife you mentioned that you use punishment as part of your dynamic, while both recognizing and agreeing with the reasons some do not.
How does punishment work in your relationships? Removal of privileges? Some kind of physical punishment? Something else entirely?”
I did mention that, yes. For the record, my comment is here (requires Fetlife login), and the pertinent paragraph was:
… Continue ReadingThose who don’t like punishment dynamics
So what are you like when you are not writing this wonderful blog ? Are you happy and chirpy ? Are you quiet and stern ? Do you have a coy smile ? Are you naughty ? Do you pull pranks on your friends ? *writes a hundred more such questions*
*laugh* Cute questions, but of course, the ‘what are you like’ one is unanswerable in any definitive way.
Are you happy and chirpy ?… Continue Reading
I said in my last:
I *really* wish that I enjoyed casual playthings because I think that would open up some very interesting opportunities…
I’m defining a ‘casual plaything’ as a boy who is attractive, fun, appealing, and temporary. Someone with whom a long term relationship isn’t possible for whatever reason, a short term fling who I would primarily treat like a treasured toy for a time.
Sounds great, right?
But it’s not. I … Continue Reading
