Online domination: What does it mean?

I see online domination mentioned, and I can imagine what it means, but I’m wondering what exactly does it mean to you, if you have an online dynamic. —Question on Fetlife

Assuming we’re talking about online-only interactions, I think for the majority of people (both dominant women and submissive men) it means online play of some sort, mostly ‘her telling him to do things that get him off’. Whether that involves jerk off instructions, sex … Continue Reading

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What are you interested in?

What interests you with your submissive?

I get this question quite a lot. It’s a reasonable one.

The first thing is that I don’t care about ‘what he will do for me’. Can he cook, can he wield a power drill, can he build things, can he give me a pedicure? Don’t care. It’s stupid. Those are useful skills of course, but in the scheme of things they aren’t partner-makers. And any smart person can … Continue Reading

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Because I have a cute bra…

© ‘Cute bra’ by & of Ferns, Domme Chronicles

That is all.

* Found this in my drafts, there is a LOT of stuff in there…Continue Reading

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Shit Ferns says #14

Random things I’ve said recently, no context.

Is that a ‘yes, I have no intention of meeting you’ salmon? If so you might have to specify: salmon species are not my forte

I think ‘vanilla’ = did not buy dedicated equipment for that :P

And here we have a vintage little number all about self-created snowballs.

“I wanked over a picture of you, THAT’S how sexy I think you are” is not the compliment those

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Corsetry: Red or blue?

© 'Corsets' by & of Ferns, Domme Chronicles

I’m going to a BDSM event next week.

To be clear, I never go to BDSM events.

I think the last time I went to a BDSM club was Paddles in New York, and that was a gazillion years ago.

But I had a very uncharacteristic bout of social energy last month, so here we are.

I had to dig around to find my corsets since that’s about it for fetish gear I own … Continue Reading

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I believe you the first time

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
— Maya Angelou

This is a timeless quote. I wholeheartedly believe in it.

I sometimes have interactions with potential partners, submissive men, natch, who do something egregious early on in our correspondence.

And that’s it, I’m out.

I know it sounds harsh, and it is.

If someone lies to me, is disrespectful, is mean, ignores my boundaries, expresses some offensive view, is shitty … Continue Reading

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e[lust] #115

Welcome to Elust 115

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