Dating: Hope vs Delusion

My American boyfriend*, DualDrew, wrote an interesting piece about personal ads and dating profiles: Hope or Delusion? The Modern Kinky Personal Ad. Go read it.

My comment got too long over there, so I’m posting it here instead.

I’m going to take issue with the opinion Drew floated about hypocrisy and the idea that I have to BE what I want in order to be allowed to want it (i.e. I see no … Continue Reading

Loves: 14
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Revisit (or ‘6’3 of pretty, yes please!’)

copyright'cougarling' by Ferns

Remember the cougarling?

6’3 of pretty, I contacted him on Fetlife, he drove 24 hours a couple of times to come and spend time with me… Yes, him.

We’ve kept in sporadic touch over the last two years. Friendly emails on and off (mostly off).

In my last message of note to him, I said this:

“You are most welcome in my lair, in my rope, and in my bed”

It’s rare that I … Continue Reading

Loves: 21
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Be bold

'Lagertha, Vikings'

You know, sometimes I just want to see women kicking some arse and inviting priests into a threesome…

**Vikings spoilers and violence**

(also I could not find a way to stop this instagram video from auto-looping, click it again to stop it)

When people say ‘fight like a girl’, I couldn’t agree more.

What is a woman’s place in … Continue Reading

Loves: 10
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e[lust] #105

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~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

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Shit Ferns Says #13

I haven’t done one of these for EVAARRR.

Snippets of things I’ve said, no context, for when my brain isn’t firing up enough to write anything of substance.

Am I sitting on your dick right now? Then no, I don’t care.

If dominance doesn’t mean ‘getting the kind of sex I want’ I wouldn’t bother. I can do ‘getting the kind of sex men like and approve of within the very narrow confines of their

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Loves: 16
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Reader Q&A: Femdom Podcast #100 [Audio]

Intro music by M.M. | Transcription by MFMWKE

Welcome to a new femdom podcast (which I have arbitrarily numbered so that I can number them going forward and don’t have to keep thinking up original titles each time :P).

Topics include the following:

  • Various sweetnesses (thank you!)
  • How to start an online relationships initiated by a sub
  • Concerns about particular fetishes (is it ok?)
  • What do you think/like about collaring/collars/leashes/kneeling boys?
  • Trying to find sexual chat online
  • Figuring out if someone online is
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Loves: 12
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Ain’t no sunshine

Copyright'Dipping sun' by sunshine

Sunshine is dating again. It’s not surprising: Good men don’t sit on the shelf for long.

A very nice (thoughtful, funny, kind etc) vanilla woman with children, she lives close by, he seems to like her quite a bit even if she’s maybe not going to be the (a?) great love of his life. Or maybe she is, who knows with these things.

I’m not sad about it, nor do I have any regrets. He’s … Continue Reading

Loves: 9
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