We have a good day today as a family. Breakfast out, eggs benedict and good coffee, shopping at a nursery for trees for the garden, some time reading, I work on some computer problems, we cook dinner together, we have champagne.
I propose a toast to my mother, who we wish was here with us, but isn’t, we touch glasses.
I sit quietly beside my father, and he cries; this from a man who I have seen shed tears only a handful of times in my life. I am grateful he is ok to do it with me there, he … Continue Reading
Sometimes, life is just life, a kiss is just a kiss and play is just play. And sometimes, angels sing.
When I talk about my relationships, I often pluck out those moments that ARE the angels singing, and I hold those instances up to the light and examine them. I sometimes talk about day to day stuff, but even then, I choose the moments that interest me, those that have some small revelation, so I think I am maybe guilty of adding to the ‘idealistic fantasy’ of D/s relationships, even if it is not the stereotypical one.
I like to woo and seduce and flirt and reel him in, I *love* to do that, that’s how I establish the relationship and the dynamic and ‘how it will be’. The dance is a testing ground to see how we will relate, to play with each other, to find and press buttons, to push-pull and nudge at the edges.
There is a school of thought amongst some Dommes that seems to suggest that seduction is somehow disingenuous or akin to lying and therefore not within the principles of open and honest communication. They approach D/s relationships with interviews and … Continue Reading
Étienne asked about the demographics of the folks who responded to the ‘How Much D/s’ question in my survey. The question was ‘how much D/s do you have now, and how much would you ideally like’.
Being the obliging and curious person that I am, I did indeed slice it a little further. Since submissive men and dominant women made up nearly 75% of the respondents, I decided to look at those more closely (click on the graph to see a bigger version).
As a reminder, the categories were described like this:
Q: I had a lovely submissive boy over for play, but in the middle of it, I had him in bondage, and I could see that he wanted and needed ‘something else, and I honestly just didn’t know what to do with him, so I ended the session. I think he probably left really disappointed.
Has anyone else been in this kind of situation? What can I do to be better prepared for a scene and play time? Any thoughts, ideas, advices are welcome.
A: Firstly, you did exactly the right thing. If something isn’t working for you, I think … Continue Reading