I like to woo and seduce and flirt and reel him in, I *love* to do that, that’s how I establish the relationship and the dynamic and ‘how it will be’. The dance is a testing ground to see how we will relate, to play with each other, to find and press buttons, to push-pull and nudge at the edges.
There is a school of thought amongst some Dommes that seems to suggest that seduction is somehow disingenuous or akin to lying and therefore not within the principles of open and honest communication. They approach D/s relationships with interviews and negotiations and agreements and discussions and paperwork and to me, it is just so… cold and unappealing.
For me, the progression has to be natural, which is why I don’t do interviews or formal processes. I need it to unfold, for him to sink into his submission to me as he gets to know me, like a warm bath, or perhaps more like quicksand, all insidious and slow. I need for our interactions to inspire my dominance, to spark that part of me that wants to reach inside him and take more, and that hunger builds slowly with a series of ‘oh’ moments that make my stomach lurch with want.
I will pitch woo at a boy I am interested in like a major league pitcher, but he had better come to the party and catch, and then do some pitching of his own.
For me it’s a dance, and if he’s over against the wall and I’m dancing on my own, that’s not going to work. By the same token, while I like to lead the dance, he had better be right there with me. Oh, and give me a man who throws me into a dip now and then, and I’ll be delighted, because that’s just hot.