Disclaimer, for regular readers…
I love that you come here and get a sense of me and my relationship, I love that you are interested at all, I love it when you comment on something that has touched you, that you sometimes share little snippets of your own lives with me, that you can relate to things that I have written, that you offer support when I need it. That is a wonderful and much appreciated benefit that I get from writing here.
I have mentioned before that I do not want to preface my posts with disclaimers, and nor have I ever worried about chronology, my posts are snippets plucked out of my mind, and I think one of my commenters got it exactly right when he noted that “It is like viewing your life through a series of flash points” (thank you robert, that was spot-on). I don’t care to put them in context because it’s largely irrelevant to what I want to convey. I started this blog because I could find very little erotica or stories about female domination that I could relate to, none of it really reflected my experience, most of it was foreign to me, like reading about life on another planet that was not only strange, but cold and uninteresting. A planet where submissive men always got blow jobs while tied up by latex-clad hotties, or got treated very harshly by the same type of hottie without any sensuality, or where D/s revolved around ‘acts’ and not people, or the other extreme reality where D/s seemed to be all about dominant women getting their chores done. I looked at all of that and just didn’t get it, where was the joy and the relationship and the hotness and the intimacy and the hunger and the vulnerability, all those things that make D/s relationships worthwhile and beautiful. So I started to take my writing out of the private into the public to show a different face to a relationship with a dominant woman, to step out a little from the stereotype.
I am grateful to now have some regular readers, it gets kind of depressing to write into the void, and if you enjoy what I write in some way, then I am happy. But having some regular readers also means that I feel a strange sense of responsibility, I don’t want to hurt your feelings (so funny, to say that), I don’t want to mislead you, to have you make assumptions and let you go ahead and believe them without my correcting you. I have written a couple of posts where I have been hurt, where a relationship ended, and I feel guilty if I don’t immediately clarify that I am ok, I don’t want you to worry about me unnecessarily. I want to save those kindnesses for a time when I really need them, I am not wanting to ‘cry wolf’ with those who show concern because I do appreciate it very much, and one day, I may write here seeking some kind words and sympathy and I don’t want to have worn out your patience on false alarms.
By way of a general disclaimer, and out of respect for my regular readers, I wanted to specifically say this: If a post does not relate to the boy I own right now, it will not have the category ‘my boy‘ on it – that category is his and his alone. I point this out to avoid explaining, for each post, if it is about my current relationship or not. It doesn’t matter, really, in terms of my view of D/s relationships, or my thoughts on how to create intimacy, or the intensity that play can bring, or about exchanges that are difficult or cute or funny or hot, or about how it can and should be about more than Goddesses in leather punishing lowly worms… in terms of all of that, it really doesn’t matter, but I know that many of you are following my blog and seeing my relationship change and evolve and are interested in how and where it is going, so I wanted to say it out loud.
With the categories that I use right now… ‘my boy‘ is my current beautiful boy; ‘snowflake‘ was my last submissive; ‘tom‘ stands for ‘The Other Men’ and covers past relationships or less significant others. And sometimes, you know, I might just make stuff up and it might not relate to any of those!