How To Find A Dominant Woman

 Copyright ‘ How To Find A Dominant Woman‘ by Sharyn Ferns, Cover art by Submissive Guy Comics  Some version of ‘how do I find a dominant woman?’ is the most commonly asked question I see from submissive men both in my personal Q&A and on F/m internet forums. Information and advice abounds on the topic: The main difficulty for someone trying to get help, […]

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Reader Q&A: Desire to please, LDRs, expectations [audio]

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This long overdue Q&A (aren’t they always?!) includes the following:  Desire to please vs hard limits, what to do? Is there an outfit that says ‘Domme’? How do I help a new sub who is struggling? “She wanted a hands-free orgasm, so she tied him to the bed and used his mouth.” LDRs and ‘how to’ I made someone fail their exams, […]

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Reader Q&A: Vanilla, young lovelies, cookies

These questions landed in my inbox via my ‘Ask me’ page… Thank you for them! — Dear Ferns,  This is a bit difficult to word so bare with me please (: I have denied my Top side for a very long time.  When I was single I could be quite aggressive sexually and then I met my husband. He opened up a softer side of me and I have become very comfortable letting him lead. […]

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Reader Q&A: Am I being scammed?

I’m newly introduced to potential fem dom /sex slave thing, and after receiving couple email tasks, very hot pictures and a 1min long video clip, I’m tempted to get in. My mistress(she wants me to call her such) is now asking for training kit fee of $1200 for equipment and toys via western union, moneygram or interact -e-transfer. […]

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PSA: Some dominants are arseholes

I hear it a lot when some self-identified dominant behaves like a jerk: “They aren’t dominant, they’re just an arsehole.” It annoys the crap out of me.  Let me let you in on a little secret. Come closer now…  The two aren’t mutually exclusive. I know!! Shocker, right?! Some dominants ARE arseholes. Also emotionally stunted, insensitive, selfish, rude, stupid, […]

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Reader Q&A: How to explain that he wants to be ‘used’

I really want to do a bunch of ‘How to’ posts to cover ‘hints and tips for newbies’ because I see these kinds of questions all the time from both potential submissives and from potential dominants. They’re great questions that many people struggle with in one way or another. Hello. when answering questions you often say to new Dom’s not take the airy fairy stuff like ‘I want to fulfil all your fantasies’ […]

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Reader QnA: How does a sub say no?

How does a sub say no at all. I read you blog entry on what to do if your sub says no but a harder question for a sub is how do you say no. Numerous times I have had very bad experiences because I didn’t feel I could deny my partner.  Recently My Lady put me through a scene that was several hours long. […]

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