Reader Q&A: Healthy pain play, how do I…, F/m events [Audio]

Music by M.M.

This ‘Reader Q&A’ is over an hour long(!) and includes the following:  Telling a dominant I like that I’m transgender You are shit at marketing (it’s true, I am!) How do you learn to cause someone pain in a good and healthy way? For those submissive men who are looking, some examples of your competition Cuckolding: Is she still dominant if she gets dominated by her ‘bull’? What kinds of fetish wear do women like on men? Dominance to help someone get out of their own head? I met a dude who’s submissive, […]

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How To Find A Dominant Woman

 Copyright ‘ How To Find A Dominant Woman‘ by Sharyn Ferns, Cover art by Submissive Guy Comics  Some version of ‘how do I find a dominant woman?’ is the most commonly asked question I see from submissive men both in my personal Q&A and on F/m internet forums. Information and advice abounds on the topic: The main difficulty for someone trying to get help, […]

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Reader Q&A: Desire to please, LDRs, expectations [audio]

Creative Commons BY-NC-ND 3.0 markMusic: Bensound

This long overdue Q&A (aren’t they always?!) includes the following:  Desire to please vs hard limits, what to do? Is there an outfit that says¬†‘Domme’? How do I help a new sub who is struggling? “She wanted a hands-free orgasm, so she tied him to the bed and used his mouth.” LDRs and ‘how to’ I made someone fail their exams, […]

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Reader Q&A: Vanilla, young lovelies, cookies

These questions landed in my inbox via my ‘Ask me’ page… Thank you for them! — Dear Ferns,  This is a bit difficult to word so bare with me please (: I have denied my Top side for a very long time.  When I was single I could be quite aggressive sexually and then I met my husband. He opened up a softer side of me and I have become very comfortable letting him lead. […]

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