I trawled OKCupid for men I felt moved to contact last week. I do that from time to time and I send a message if they look interesting.
There wasn’t a single profile that motivated me to send a note. Not one. Not even a ‘you aren’t a match for me but great profile/funny comment/cute photos’ kind of note.
I’m sure I’m not alone in having this experience. It’s one of the reasons I rarely actively look. I find it not just frustrating, but kind of depressing.
In the meantime, holy fuck beautiful eyes is back in the country next week. We hadn’t been in touch since our exchange about his interest in submission, but a quick back-and-forth shows there is still mutual curiosity and interest in getting together to see what’s what.
He wants conversation, but I’m still convinced that we are fundamentally incompatible and that no good can come of it. I suggested another kissing date before chitter chatter bursts the little bubble we’ve managed to keep relatively intact. I really don’t want to miss out on the chance to get more kissing from him. Kissing first. Talking later.