In F/m, using sex as a reward seems to be a thing. Where the sub’s good behaviour earns sex.
If folks enjoy it, great. But to me it’s the grossest thing.
On all levels.
In my mind, it leads to scenarios like this:
- Ugh I don’t feel like having sex but he’s ‘earned’ it so I suppose I have to now
- I feel like having sex but he was ‘naughty’ yesterday, so I guess I don’t get any
- Gee I hope he’s ‘good’ so I can get some sex
- I hope he’s disobedient, I don’t feel like having sex today
The end result would be that my sexual desires would count for nothing, would be irrelevant. They’d be entirely usurped by, and dependent on, my submissive’s behaviour.
To any and all of that.