What does a femdom do when she’s not femdomming?

Normal stuff, you know.

Cougarling
I’m trying to set up a time for the cougarling to come visit for a weekend: Kissing, touching, rope, all of that kind of thing. He’s moved since his ’24 hour drive’ type distance, but it’s still a long way, either a flight or a ton of driving. He suggested next weekend, but I already have (not-kinky) plans for the next two weekends, so then it’s getting into July.

Femdom fiction
Writing this damn femdom fiction. Fiction is ridiculously hard for me. I’ve had one person read my work-in-progress because I was truly stalled, but I’m still struggling. I keep thinking of ways to attack it, including setting up an elite little reader group to give me feedback and to throw ideas around with, but I have a really tenuous hold on it, and am also super sensitive about it, so I’m worried that it will slip away if that doesn’t go well.

The next ‘How To’ Femdom Guide
Trying to narrow down the next idea for another short, sharp, focussed ‘How To’ Femdom Guide. I’m thinking a guide for dominant women that expands on this concept: ‘When your submissive says ‘no’‘. I know a lot of new dominants struggle with it, and I get a lot of questions about it, so a more in-depth look would be useful.
Considering doing this is, of course, a kind of procrastination due to the fiction writing being like wading through tar.

Patrons and audio porn
Toying with the idea of setting up a Patreon for audio porn: Primarily readings from my erotica book.
In case you aren’t aware, Patreon is a service where patrons can support content creators for the work they do, and that support grants them access to exclusive content. I’ve been thinking about it for a while, but pulling the trigger is a big deal, not least because I’ve been delivering free content for so long (well, it actually costs ME money to run this website, so I really pay to provide this free content :P). Ideally, I’d love to have a high number of subscribers at a low rate of $2 or $3 a month, but I’m not convinced I can get the numbers and I’m wary of creating a bunch of extra work for myself for a fraction of a cent a day.
If you’d be interested in actually handing over hard-earned money for this, let me know in the comments or via email.

Workouts
Getting my gym regime back on track. I’ve let it slide after issues with my shoulder that went on and on (and on) over the past two years. My shoulder is now better (not great, but better), but I’m completely out of the habit. I’ve continued with physio-led Pilates twice a week (without this my body pretty much falls apart), but other than that, I’ve been lax. This week has been the first time I’ve managed 5 sessions in a long long time. I’d love to say it feels good, but it somehow never does for me. But, I did it, so yay!

Family things
I have family visits coming up over the next few weeks with my sister flying in from overseas. I’m looking forward to it. Also visiting with my dad as part of all of that, so kind of looking forward to running into the vanilla man and seeing how awkward we can be :P.

Schoolwork
I’m doing some study. I don’t think I’ve mentioned that here before. It’s a small web technology-related course, no big deal, but it is surprisingly more work than I expected. It’s online so I don’t have to go anywhere or see anyone, but they load up the subjects with a ridiculous number of assessment pieces: My current subject has eight (8!) pieces of assessment.
I am getting a grant for this study and have to finish it in half the time to qualify for the monies so really have to finish a subject every 2 weeks between now and the end of the year. I’m cherry-picking the easiest ones, which I will no doubt live to regret as time goes on.

It’s a beautiful winter’s day today. I am having a weekend of cooking and freezing food so I don’t go off and load up on warming comfort stodge. Yesterday was pea & ham soup (and wine, as you can clearly see in the photo :P), and my mother’s frikadel (Dutch meatballs). Today I’m making a batch of cauliflower & broccoli soup while blasting music too loudly and annoying the neighbours.

So what’s going on with you?

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17 Comments

  1. Three things…

    “Writing this damn femdom fiction. Fiction is ridiculously hard for me.”

    My advice, harden up. :) The stories you wrote in the early years of this blog are wonderful. You wrote that, you can write fiction.
    “Do. Or do not. There is no try.” – Yoda

    “‘When your submissive says ‘no’’‘.

    I like that concept. I think you might have a winner. Hey, you could get started right after you finish the fiction book. :)

    “If you’d be interested in actually handing over hard-earned money for this, let me know in the comments or via email.”

    Yep, sure. I’m in. I’d pay good money to hear your voice anytime. :)

    1. Heh… thanks Yoda :P.

      “I like that concept. I think you might have a winner. Hey, you could get started right after you finish the fiction book. :)”

      Or… in parallel. And when I say ‘in parallel’, I mean ‘instead of’… :).

      “I’d pay good money to hear your voice anytime. :)”

      Thank you :).

      Ferns

  2. Hi…I’d be willing to pay a subscription…love all your writing and musings …so appreciate that’s it’s free to access.. but would be more than happy to pay to read it…

    Brendan xx

  3. I’d also be interested in hearing your voice and would pay a few bucks a month for hearing you read your books

  4. Glad things are going well for you.

    I’m on summer break but have joined a couple dating sites. I talk to my therapist weekly and have made progress in my confidence, I actually got a whole page down of all my positive qualities; an accomplishment when I’ve hated your legs most of your life and recently found out you have a depression/anxiety mix going on upstairs too. I have your book and a kink community friend to guide me through the BDSM angle too. I have time to send out some messages right now.

    I just joined a gym myself, one designed to be adaptable for disabilities. I’m focusing on upper body machines for now but actually enjoy exercise more then I thought I would. Its a bit far to get to regularly and when the snow comes it might be harder, but it’s a good stepping stone; I’m going to have awesome shoulders!

    Just getting early work done for preparing my next school year, credit card bill should kill me.
    I’m considering what I want in the future, trying to explore more but can’t go far for long; my mother will be 70 in a few years and I’m an only child.

    Might PM you in a day or two with a couple more details if that’s OK?

    1. Sounds like things are going pretty well for you, and you are working really hard for it: Good for you! I’m glad to hear it and thank you for sharing :).

      Sure send me a note, always happy to hear from you.

      Ferns

  5. When your submissive says “no”…..

    Perhaps a book could be expanded to include the different frustrations that Dominant Women have?

    For example, some Dominant Women seem to feel obligated to conform to the Ice Queen stereotype, even if that doesn’t suit them.

    Another example-there was a story awhile back about a young Dominant Women who felt frustrated by the assumption that she-is-young-and-female-and-therefore-submissive.

    Perhaps Dommes could describe the changes they would like to see?

    1. Thanks Grok.

      I *do* say in my book for dominant women that they do not have to conform to any stereotypes, and I will 100% keep giving that advice.

      But wishful thinking or complaining is a poor fit for a ‘how to’ guide because there’s fuck all they can do about what someone *else* does. All they can do is be confident that if it’s not their path, they can say ‘nope’ to it.

      Ferns

  6. Those nails are shocking! No wonder you can’t get a man young lady. To the nail bar with you wench!
    *insert annoying smirk here*
    Coug

  7. Tsk! EVERYBODY knows a real Domme will have blood red or black lacquered nails, honestly Ferns I despair of you, Oh that pic just no!
    Coug

  8. Ferns, perhaps you could offer examples of Dominant Women going their own way? Following their own ideas, rather than conforming to a stereotype?

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