Vanilla man, or no?

I overthink everything. It can get very boring, even to me.

The other day I met a vanilla man who somehow appealed to me. He bought the place next to my dad’s house (over an hour away from me): We had a chat when I visited and I asked for a tour of his as-yet-incomplete house. We had an easy rapport, he was somehow very open with me (he’s recently divorced, talked about his work, … Continue Reading

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Reader Q&A: Femdom Podcast #101 [Audio]

Intro music by M.M. | Transcription by MFMWKE

Welcome to another podcast. This Reader Q&A includes the following:

  • How to find a dominant woman: (here you go!)
  • I don’t trust him, what do I do?
  • Sweetness & box girder bridges
  • Mismatched communication styles
  • Navigating new relationships
  • Getting her from ‘indulging him’ to ‘taking the domme role’
  • Dealing with subs who tell Dommes ‘how it should be’
  • Does he have “too many hard limits”
  • More ideas for punishments please
  • And more!

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e[lust] #106

Welcome to Elust 106

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #107? Start with the rules, come back June 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!


~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

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#cockygate: A Saga of Arseholery

Aw yeah, I went there...

If you are involved in writing romance books (and you probably aren’t) or read them (maybe you do) or if you read books at all (have I got you all now?), then #cockygate might be of interest to you.

If you’ve not heard a thing about it, sit back and let me wave the drama around.

Romance author Faleena Hopkins got a trademark on the word ‘cocky’ (yes, on the word itself) for “a series … Continue Reading

Loves: 7
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Dating: Hope vs Delusion

My American boyfriend*, DualDrew, wrote an interesting piece about personal ads and dating profiles: Hope or Delusion? The Modern Kinky Personal Ad. Go read it.

My comment got too long over there, so I’m posting it here instead.

I’m going to take issue with the opinion Drew floated about hypocrisy and the idea that I have to BE what I want in order to be allowed to want it (i.e. I see no … Continue Reading

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