Edited To Add: Here’s a link to the post with my answer to this question and advice for anyone who’s struggling with it in their dynamic:
When your submissive says ‘no’
I was going to write a post pontificating about this, as I tend to do, and then I thought I’d ask you all instead of blathering on about it from my own point of view.
For both submissives and dominants:
In your relationship, what happens when the submissive disobeys?
For the purposes of this question, I am using the word ‘disobey’ to mean ‘to refuse or fail to follow an order or rule.’ Not an accident, not a mistake, no unavoidable circumstances. Plain old disobedience.
If you haven’t got any experience to draw on because you are new, that’s fine, just talk about what your expectations are.
I’m particularly interested in hearing from submissives on this.
I look forward to hearing your thoughts!