Kissing date? What kissing date?


So holy-fuck-beautiful-eyes pulled out of the kissing date.

It was supposed to be tomorrow night. Yesterday we were finalising plans. Today he told me that a woman he had been on a few dates with had expressed serious interest in him this morning, and he was equally interested in her. Given that had arisen, he didn’t think it would be right to go ahead with the kissing date.

Understandably, relationship-potential trumps stranger-kissing.

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Reader Q&A: Energy in play and kissing dates

Advice and thoughts on nicknames, getting your needs met, building energy in play, and the intricacies of kissing dates.


Hey there,
I’m an aspiring Domme. But I haven’t found a name I’m happy with yet. Any suggestions?
~Goddess _________

Hello there!

*smile* You are starting your name with ‘Goddess’ and you are asking someone who goes by ‘Ferns’. I think I can safely say “I got nothin'”.

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Kissing date

Kissing date: A date designed with the sole objective of kissing.

This is a completely different thing from a traditional date where the objective is ‘getting to know you’ or ‘doing something together’ or ‘sharing a meal’ or a combination of any of those things, where there *might* be some kissing at some stage if all goes well.

A kissing date is JUST FOR KISSING. I’m liking this idea for a whole bunch of … Continue Reading

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Journaling (or ‘woah, now I feel bad!’)

Journals are kind of strange.

I’ve kept a journal since I was made to write one for grade 10 English class. I was fifteen. My teacher said that we could mark parts of it private, and he wouldn’t read it. He lied. I know this because he put encouraging remarks on the heartfelt teenage angst that I had marked as private. I had lamented about my small breasts when other girls had wonderful, beautiful breasts … Continue Reading

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MOAR amazing book reviews

I am so very delighted that I have received some more wonderful book reviews. Incredible happies!!

On Amazon, this fabulous review *smile*:

This is a must-read
I can’t love this enough. The writing is marvellous, sometimes sweet and sometimes raw. These stories aren’t *just* hot (though they are very sexy). Ferns lets us dive into moments of stunning intensity and intimacy. She shows a version of D/s largely missing from portrayals of BDSM:

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Showing off what’s mine

This post is sparked by Nlikes recent post where he put up pictures of a gorgeous woman he has a long distance communication going with.

In a similar way, I like to show off what’s mine. Even if it’s not really mine. Or only mine in a sense or for a little while. It’s not just about appreciation, though there is that certainly. ‘Appreciation’ is just “Look, here’s a thing, isn’t it nice?”: Its relationship … Continue Reading

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