People who include ‘children’ as a hard limit make me shouty.
The only reason I can see for doing it is if they actually believe that playing with minors is such a common and acceptable practice with most of the BDSM community that they have to differentiate themselves from the norm by stating it.
The only thought process that makes sense to me, that justifies including it, is this:
“Playing with kidlets is the norm, so I had better separate myself from *everyone else* by listing it as a hard limit. If I don’t have it listed, obviously everyone will assume it’s ok and will come to me expecting it. Oh nooooo, no playing with the kiddies for me, I want to be clear about that!”
It *makes no sense*. AT ALL!!
It’s like someone somewhere once decided that it NEEDED to be spelled out, you know, so that all the pedophiles in the BDSM community don’t pick ME when they want to play with the kiddies! Because obviously, if I don’t list it as an actual hard limit, people will automatically assume that I think it’s ok…
If you really must list it, please also include ‘necrophilia’, ‘amputation by chainsaw’ and ‘gouging out eyes with teaspoons’ on your hard limits list, just so everyone is clear about those also, mmkay?
What. The. Fuck????!!!!!