Who wears the pants? Are there pants?

Dishevelled Domina has written a great post about F/m D/s relationships, drawing attention to the fallacy of female supremacy and female led relationships (FLRs) as the ‘One True Way of D/s’ for dominant women and submissive men to be in a relationship.

While I agree with the overall point (that F/m relationships do not have to be defined in any one way, except to suit the participants), and her preference is equality in her own relationship outside of their love life, I offered the following comment since the question it raises for me is “What is an FLR, anyway… and … Continue Reading

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Sunday curiosity #12

In this post, I am answering questions asked by the lovely N in the last Sunday curiosity comments.

“Were you always a “private player” (did I get that right?) or was there a time when you did enjoy playing at parties, gatherings and the like?

Yes, you got that right!! And no I wasn’t always. I actually started out playing in public, but I didn’t do it a lot because I learnt quite quickly that I struggle to get what I want out of it.

The very first time I played was in public (go me! I was so irresponsibleContinue Reading

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This is what a scam looks like

So, you (submissive male ‘you’) have emailed with someone for a while, she seems perfect, she ‘gets’ you, you have a lot in common, she likes your kinks, she thinks you are special. Then she asks for money. You go ‘hang on!’ and you baulk.

Then she sends something like this (actual email below). It is designed to hit every insecurity and doubt button you may have.

I am disappointed that you seem to want to fail so early and ruin everything but this is why I set this test. There are literally thousands of so called submissives who promise

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Little things

Things that made me happy today:

  • Stunning winter weather; cool, clear, sunny
  • A guy on an all terrain skateboard with huge tyres being pulled by his two dogs
  • Three boys running past me wafting pheremones and cologne in their wake
  • Anticipating lamb with chilli dukkah for dinner
  • Beautiful shirtless man in khaki shorts and big boots laying turf
  • Stupid things on the internet that make me laugh
  • Contemplating a glass of cold wine in my warm sunny apartment
  • Happy emails from dear ones in my inbox
  • Lovely comments on my blog
  • This song:

All in all, a good day.

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Boy under her heels

She has on her new ankle boots, black leather, stiletto heels, stockings… she has them on, at home, in the house. His eyes are wide as he takes in the clingy black dress, the red lipstick. On the table, water crackers and various cheeses; brie, camembert, vintage cheddar, what looks like Edam. She is leaning back comfortably in the black leather swivel chair, legs crossed, a boot swinging hypnotically back and forth. She has a glass of white wine in her hand.

She snaps her fingers, points to the floor in front of her. He is kneeling at her feet … Continue Reading

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Last chance for surveyosity

The survey is now closed…

Thank you so much to everyone who took the time to respond… much fun!!!

I am rubbing my hands together with glee over the impending graph porn.

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I will be closing the oft-pimped survey tomorrow, so if you want to give me a piece of your mind (the pink bits please, not the grey wrinkly bits…), then have at it… go on, you know you want to!!

Then, soon after that, there will be graph porn and other goodies!! Wheee!!!

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Sunday curiosity #11

Thank you so much to those who asked questions… fun!! This ended up being a hugely long post!! Get coffee, and a packed lunch, and maybe some alcohol.

N: Have you ever “subbed”? :D

Yes, I have.

My first foray into real life BDSM was as a submissive after exploring my dominant side online. My femsub friend and I met a very experienced maledom in a chat room and agreed to meet him. I identified as dominant, but had no real life experience, so it seemed like a good way to gain some knowledge. We would go and see … Continue Reading

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