#cockygate: A Saga of Arseholery

Aw yeah, I went there...

If you are involved in writing romance books (and you probably aren’t) or read them (maybe you do) or if you read books at all (have I got you all now?), then #cockygate might be of interest to you.

If you’ve not heard a thing about it, sit back and let me wave the drama around.

Romance author Faleena Hopkins got a trademark on the word ‘cocky’ (yes, on the word itself) for “a series … [...more]

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Dating: Hope vs Delusion

My American boyfriend*, DualDrew, wrote an interesting piece about personal ads and dating profiles: Hope or Delusion? The Modern Kinky Personal Ad. Go read it.

My comment got too long over there, so I’m posting it here instead.

I’m going to take issue with the opinion Drew floated about hypocrisy and the idea that I have to BE what I want in order to be allowed to want it (i.e. I see no … [...more]

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Revisit (or ‘6’3 of pretty, yes please!’)

copyright'cougarling' by Ferns

Remember the cougarling?

6’3 of pretty, I contacted him on Fetlife, he drove 24 hours a couple of times to come and spend time with me… Yes, him.

We’ve kept in sporadic touch over the last two years. Friendly emails on and off (mostly off).

In my last message of note to him, I said this:

“You are most welcome in my lair, in my rope, and in my bed”

It’s rare that I … [...more]

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Be bold

'Lagertha, Vikings'

You know, sometimes I just want to see women kicking some arse and inviting priests into a threesome…

**Vikings spoilers and violence**

(also I could not find a way to stop this instagram video from auto-looping, click it again to stop it)

I have message for you… #timesup #womensmarch

A post shared by Katheryn Winnick (@katherynwinnick) on

When people say ‘fight like a girl’, I couldn’t agree more.… [...more]

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e[lust] #105

Welcome to Elust 105

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~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

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Shit Ferns Says #13

I haven’t done one of these for EVAARRR.

Snippets of things I’ve said, no context, for when my brain isn’t firing up enough to write anything of substance.

Am I sitting on your dick right now? Then no, I don’t care.

If dominance doesn’t mean ‘getting the kind of sex I want’ I wouldn’t bother. I can do ‘getting the kind of sex men like and approve of within the very narrow confines of their

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Reader Q&A Podcast #100 [Audio]

Intro music by M.M. | Transcription by MFMWKE

Welcome to a new Reader Q&A Podcast (which I have arbitrarily numbered so that I can number them going forward and don’t have to keep thinking up original titles each time :P).

Topics include the following:

  • Various sweetnesses (thank you!)
  • How to start an online relationships initiated by a sub
  • Concerns about particular fetishes (is it ok?)
  • What
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