What does a femdom do when she’s not femdomming?

© 'Getting ready to cook' by Ferns

Normal stuff, you know.

Cougarling
I’m trying to set up a time for the cougarling to come visit for a weekend: Kissing, touching, rope, all of that kind of thing. He’s moved since his ’24 hour drive’ type distance, but it’s still a long way, either a flight or a ton of driving. He suggested next weekend, but I already have (not-kinky) plans for the next two weekends, so then it’s getting into July.

Femdom fiction
Writing this damn femdom fiction. Fiction is ridiculously hard for me. I’ve had one person read my work-in-progress because I was truly stalled, but … [...Read More]

Loves: 15
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e[lust] #107

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~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Baby making…

I thought of GotN while fucking

Man-struation
 

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Room 401

Compost

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

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No, for real now

The vanilla man bailed.

I’m not really surprised, but I AM disappointed.

He has legitimate reasons that I don’t doubt are true (he expanded a bit on serious family issues that he mentioned earlier), but really: If you’re in the middle of some emotional upheaval, maybe, you know, don’t say ‘yes’ in the first place. I’d guess that he didn’t quite realise the mess he was in until he tried to add something else on top, and then he realised later that he didn’t have emotional/mental energy for it/me.

In taking stock, I’m not invested so it’s no big deal … [...Read More]

Loves: 17
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And that was that… OR WAS IT?!

The vanilla man is not proactively showing interest. I vaguely wonder if that’s a vanilla/submissive divide. But honestly, it doesn’t matter much.

I felt it on the weekend after we didn’t have the date. His communication about possibly not being able to make it was good, so that was fine. But when the get-together was clearly not going to happen (and didn’t happen), we both dropped communication.

While that would have been fine if we had an alternative time lined up, we didn’t have anything else lined up. I hate texting, so don’t do any ‘just because’ chatty exchanges with … [...Read More]

Loves: 19
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Well hello, vanilla man

After a lot of sage advice in my comments and on twitter, I did indeed invite the vanilla man to come and have a drink with me.

Hi vanilla man: If you’re interested in a drink down at [where I live] sometime, let me know. I can offer stellar views: we can compare :).
-Sharyn (the tall blonde, pink sarong, [my dad’s] daughter
(if you don’t remember who I am, let’s both just pretend that you never got this, mmkay? :P

The ‘we can compare’ relates to him giving me a tour of his unfinished house when I was there: … [...Read More]

Loves: 14
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Vanilla man, or no?

I overthink everything. It can get very boring, even to me.

The other day I met a vanilla man who somehow appealed to me. He bought the place next to my dad’s house (over an hour away from me): We had a chat when I visited and I asked for a tour of his as-yet-incomplete house. We had an easy rapport, he was somehow very open with me (he’s recently divorced, talked about his work, was showing off a bit about an article in the newspaper about him). The interaction was nothing special but he’s still on my mind.

A … [...Read More]

Loves: 15
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