I believe you the first time

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
— Maya Angelou

This is a timeless quote. I wholeheartedly believe in it.

I sometimes have interactions with potential partners, submissive men, natch, who do something egregious early on in our correspondence.

And that’s it, I’m out.

I know it sounds harsh, and it is.

If someone lies to me, is disrespectful, is mean, ignores my boundaries, expresses some offensive view, is shitty in some way, I believe it is exactly what it is. There’s no ‘there’ there, no secret to uncover. It is what it is.

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e[lust] #115

Welcome to Elust 115

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #116? Start with the rules, come back March 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!


~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Abstinence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

Your Loss

Ask for It

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Two Explorers

Sweet Child of Mine

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

{Na}Scent Traces


*You really should consider adding your popular posts here too*
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

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Domme Chronicles book sale: Last day

Need a reason to buy my Domme Chronicles book of femdom erotica (other than ‘it’s less than half price, and I told you to’ I mean)?

Read this heartbreakingly lovely email that landed in my inbox <3. Then go get it.

Hi Ferns,

I wanted to pass along my deep appreciation to you for the Domme Chronicles book. It’s beautiful. Each short excerpt is like a love letter to that moment, frozen in time. Some of them are so intimate it makes the heart physically ache in reading them. It captures the grace and beauty that intimacy through power exchange creates, and it does … Continue Reading

Loves: 2
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Yes, it’s about you

I’ve mentioned quite a few times that I’m a bit like a stereotypical man when it comes to orgasms. I come once, hard, and then I lose interest. I’m done.

When I came at least twice with him each time, my pleasure was multiplied by watching him realise that that was about him.

It was not ‘a thing’ he did (though there was that too), it was just… him. And I could see the realisation dawn on him over the short time we had together.

‘I did this…’

‘She’s not normally like this… I’m sure she said that…’

‘Holy fuck, … Continue Reading

Loves: 10
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6’2 female Viking warrior

Ragga Ragnar as Gunnhild, Vikings S05

Her full name is Ragnheiður Ragnarsdóttir. Her acting name is Ragga Ragnars.

She is 6’2, Icelandic, a former Olympic swimmer.

In Vikings Season 5, she is nothing short of magnificent as Gunnhild, the Viking warrior who stands toe-to-toe with the formidable Björn Ironside, and she is 100% not putting up with his bullshit.

Enjoy :).

** Spoilers Vikings Season 5

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BDSM house for sale

Speaking of BDSM in the mainstream, this real estate listing in Maple Glen, PA. went out with photos of their fully furnished dungeon basement in it.

It went viral, which obviously shows the titillation value of it and no doubt achieved the agent’s goal of maximum exposure.

The real estate sites, though, did take the photos down after it got a lot of publicity, so the pearl-clutchers were close at hand to shut it down when they got wind of it :/.

You (yes you! :P) have two options here:

1. Buy this house for $750K (5 bedroom, 2.5 … Continue Reading

Loves: 8
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On beautiful submissive men

© 'Submissive men: A celebration of beauty (video still)' by Ferns

Years ago, I created a tribute to the beauty of submissive men, with contributions from submissive men and from those who love them. It is still my most favourite project, and illustrates, truly, how the nature of beauty is so much more complex than it seems on the surface.

This video is the result of those generous contributions.

Submissive men: A celebration of beauty

Let me say this without any slight on him: My last submissive was not a conventionally handsome man. He was not the kind of man who would attract surreptitious admiring looks when he walked down the … Continue Reading

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