Power imbalances

This is about power imbalances and the controversial concept of ‘least interested’, so buckle up :).

“Do people really believe that the person that is the least interested in the relationship has the power?”

Yep. Absolutely yes. This is actually a real thing referred to in sociology, unimaginatively, as the ‘principle of least interest‘.

Power imbalances exist in relationships for any number of reasons, and I’d definitely say that the person who is … Continue Reading

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“I want to be an oral slave”

Public domain markfrom Pxhere

Would an oral slave satisfy a domme?
I love and crave facesitting, pussy and ass worship, body worship. Would this alone satisfy a domme?

Imagine, if you will, being on a vanilla site and asking a similar question.

“I love and crave facesitting, pussy and ass licking, body touching and licking. Would this alone satisfy a woman?”

Imagine, if you will, your sister/female friends/any actual-for-real woman you’ve ever met ever reading that, written … Continue Reading

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Shit Ferns says #17

Random shit I’ve said, no context (if you want more of this in real time: This is pretty much ‘me on Twitter’ :)).

I was gonna tweet “How are people fucking dating rn?!”
But really I mean “How are people fucking dating anywhere ever in the history of time?!”
Dating fucking sucks
Just bring me a fully formed relationship with someone who’s happy I slap his face before I sit on it

Look, if you’ve

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e[lust] #134

Welcome to Elust 134-

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #135? Start with the rules, come back October 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Positivity is Continue Reading

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How does femdom work?

how femdom works

Someone asked a question that was essentially ‘how does femdom work’ in one of the forums I frequent, or more specifically they were aksing how do femdom relationships work, and I thought I’d share an embellished version of my answer here.

“How does your F/m relationship work? Does your sub have to be a docile mouse all the time?”

I’m single at the moment, but when I have a submissive, he is my romantic, monogamous, … Continue Reading

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Femdom: Is this a scam?

Scam alert

Femdom scams are common. Soooo common. The truth is that if you’re asking ‘is this a femdom scam?’, it’s probably a femdom scam :/.

I’ve written about femdom scams a few times over the years:

  • This is what a scam looks like*
  • Scammers come in different flavours*
  • Should I pay tribute?
  • *Note: My older posts have not kept up with the fast pace of technology: As mentioned below, a simple, very Continue Reading

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    Shit Ferns says #16

    Random shit I’ve said, no context (if you want more of this in real time: This is pretty much ‘me on Twitter’ :)).

    Obviously I only write true highbrow literary works because I only ever use ‘come’.
    Nevaaarrr ‘cum’. No-one in my writing gets to to ‘cum’.
    COLD DEAD HANDS and etc :P

    She beats both of them senseless for having the absolute wrong focus here :P

    This is a thing people do for fun.

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