How To Handle Disobedience: Book launch special!

Aaaahhh, my fourth ‘How To’ femdom guide is out, it’s out!!

How To Handle Disobedience, for dominant women

For the first 24 hours post-launch it’s half price on Amazon!

As with my other guides, I’ve honed in on a problem that I see new dominants striking all the time. Some version of the following:
“My submissive won’t do what I say! What do I do?”
“What to do when my submissive says no?”
“What do I do if my submissive disobeys?”
“How do I stop my submissive when they’re being a brat?”

It doesn’t matter whether your submissive … Continue Reading

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How to handle disobedience

My new book (coming out soon!), How To Handle Disobedience, is for new dominant women who struggle with obedience in their femdom dynamic. It’s a deeper dive into the approach I outlined in this post, “What to do when your submissive says ‘no’” (one of my most popular posts).

I’ve been around for a long time, and one of the reasons I started my ‘How To’ Femdom Series was to give down-to-earth practical help to newbies, both dominant women and submissive men.

Rather than giving some high level ‘whole of dynamic’ advice, I honed in on issues … Continue Reading

Loves: 12
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My sent emails LIV

Hello 20yo-stranger,

“Would it be too much to ask to have a chat with you on kik?”

Yes, it would, I only get into private chats with friends.

“I love…[blah blah]… Makes me hard thinking about it.”

And I only give my details to friends because of this. Seriously, this would interest me why?

If you have actually read my blog as you say, I’m pretty damn sure that there is not a single place in it where I have stated, or implied, or even vaguely hinted that the state of some stranger’s hardon is of the slightest interest to … Continue Reading

Loves: 6
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e[lust] #124

Welcome to Elust 124

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #125? Start with the rules, come back December1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!


~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Death of Sexual Desire


Your consent is not continual

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Smile for the Camera

Lessons From Two Years in a Polyamorous Triad

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

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Happy femdom story: Becca & Adam

This is a story about a long term marriage that had gone slightly off track over the years, and how one submissive man went from seeking kink to looking a little deeper at what was happening in his relationship, and seeing if handing over some control could help with that.



Author: Adam

I met Becca while in college. She was walking through the student union in a pair of Calvin Klein jeans that accentuated her beautiful ass. It was seriously gorgeous and I knew I had to meet her. Through a mutual connection, we met at our next … Continue Reading

Loves: 5
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The cutie pie and the sex toy: Part 2

Waiting in bondage

© 'Waiting in bondage' by Ferns

Go here for Part 1 of this femdom dating adventure: ‘The cutie pie and the sex toy’.

There was kissing. Not a lot of kissing, there is never enough kissing. But there it was. Muted, as if there was a volume dial set to low, nothing violent that I can recall, which is where I tend to go when that dial starts to turn up. Though there was enough of a hint of where it might go that I felt him reach for more.

My fingers around his throat to hold him where I wanted him, he put his … Continue Reading

Loves: 30
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The cutie pie and the sex toy: Part 1

Gift: ankle cuffs & strap

© Monogrammed ankle cuffs made for me by the cutie pie <3

I wrote about the sex toy testing, but I didn’t write about the date. They aren’t the same thing.

Let me start by saying that I was right about the cutie pie: He is really sweet, solicitous and genuine. He laid his excitement about our date at my feet over and over, and that, coupled with his sincere desire to make sure he was being pleasing to me, was just lovely.

I’d invited him over for the sex toy testing on a Saturday morning. I’d explained what was in scope and in his eagerness, he’d offered much more than … Continue Reading

Loves: 25
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