Archive for the ‘survey’ Category
Yes, I AM still posting survey results!! It will never end… NEVER, I TELL YOU!!!
Free text answers to my question:
Why do you read my blog?
Straight Male Submissive, 18-35
Graph porn obviously! Plus the grocery lists…
Obviously, I don’t know why I even asked the question! Silly me!
Heteroflexible Male Submissive, 18-35
I wish I was your submissive, even though it will never happen that thought plays into a fantasy where I can serve the perfect Domme, lovingly and completely.
Awww, that’s so sweet, thank you for the lovely compliment, though just quietly… the ‘perfect Domme’ thing… I think I would disavow you of that notion pretty damn quickly!
Straight Male Submissive, 36-45
I love the way You write.
Thank you *smile*, and I love it when other people love it… mutual love-fest!
Straight Male Submissive, 46-55
Great writing style, posts are entertaining, hot, and insightful. What more could one ask for?
You couldn’t ask for anything more, truly! Except photos of sexy shoes and nudity… heeeeyyyy, I’m bringin’ it!
Straight Male Submissive, 46-55
For pleasure and to relax. To learn, to comment
I hope I am giving you much of all of those, and I always love comments… thank you for them!
Straight Male Switch, 46-55
The intimacy associated with the Dominance feels real and heartfelt.. and totally resonates.
I’m pleased that it feels that way to you… to me also, and I do love when things resonate with others.
Pansexual Male Switch, 18-35
I like your blog and read it frequently. I rarely comment because I feel intimidated when you point out my ignorance in your reply. It is not your fault that you are so much smarter than I. I appreciate your clever writing.
Oh nooo… I apologise unreservedly for making you feel intimidated. I love comments, and hate to think that I have discouraged you from them. If I am pointing something out that I disagree with (and I do, and will), I never mean to hit you over the head with a sledgehammer… it should be more like a gentle tap on the arse…! Please come and comment again… *makes cooing noises*
Straight Male Submissive, 46-55
Articulate, sensible, prolific dominant women aren’t easy to find. I’ve grown fond of you.
*smile* Thank you for the loveliness and I will happily take the fondness and tuck it away in my pocket.
Straight Female Dominant, 18-35
It’s nice to read about another dominant woman who sounds like a real person (has a sense of humor, is affectionate toward people who bottom to her), instead of a stereotype.
Yay! We are out there fiercely shaking fists at the terrible stereotypes… I am glad to see you!!
More belated free text survey answers to the ego driven question:
Why do you read my blog?
Heteroflexible Female Dominant, 36-45
you write very well
*big smile* Thank you, I’m glad you enjoy it!
Bisexual Female Dominant, 18-35
I love the way you write!
And I love it when people love the way I write… win-win!! Yay!
Male Submissive, 56-65
Cuz you have the forced link in every message [on Fetlife] and it is really getting old! You did ask!
I *did* ask, yes. I have to point out that this gentleman went on to tell me to “Take your link to this crap off your signature!”. Now, dear, you do know how links on the internet work, right? If you don’t click on them, it’s like they don’t even exist!! Voila! See how easily I solved the problem that seems to irk you so? No need to thank me!
Pansexual Female Dominant, 36-45
Your descriptions of how you feel with a submissive often could have come right out of my own head. It is nice to feel understood.
It’s nice for me too, which is why I love the ‘me toos’! I’m so glad you can relate.
Bisexual Female Dominant, 36-45
Very well written and engaging!
I’m glad, thank you for saying so! At this point I looked up synonyms for ‘glad’, but it didn’t seem quite right to say “I’m tickled, thank you for saying so!” and that was the closest I could find… Quite honestly, it *does* make me glad! And tickled!
Straight Female Unsure, 36-45
You are obviously intelligent, articulate and like graphs :-)
*grin* I am, truly! On my good days anyway. And I do like graphs, I am a total graph slut!
Straight Male Switch, 36-45
You write well and with emotion. Plus, you are Ferns. Isn’t that enough?
*laugh* One would think that would be more than enough, yes! Thank you so much for the sweetness.
Heteroflexible Male Submissive, 36-45
The quality of the writing is very good, far better than most similar blogs.
Oh, I’m delighted that you think so… will you be my Quality Assurance offsider? You would get to whisper in my ear when I slip below a certain level and give me a gentle nudge and say “Pick it up Ma’am, those readers won’t stand for it, you know!” You won’t be long in the job since I am likely to hiss and spit and kick your arse out the door, but it will be fun while it lasts.
Gay/lesbian Female Dominant, 46-55
What kind of a stalker WOULDN’T read your blog geesh ?
Great question… a rubbish stalker!! Which you are not, obviously!! You are talented and sneaky and a Mistress of disguises… Your disguise as a family of four on bicycles was particularly inspired. Kudos!
Straight Female Switch, 65
You tell it like it is and I like that, I learn a lot from reading your posts and I also love some of the tender posts you put on, some bring tears to my eyes
Awww… me too, with the tears sometimes… I hate that! I’m pleased that you are getting something out of it, thank you for taking the time to say so.
Wow, it’s really not like me to forget fun things like publishing self serving survey results! But I did, I forgot!! I blame hormones, or the move, or all the wild sex I’ve been having… *sigh*… ok, maybe not the latter…
Some more free form text answers to my survey from waaaay back when below:
Q: Why do you read my blog?
Queer Female Switch, 18-35
I’ve had submissives of mine write journal entries in response to your blog.
Oh, fun! I hope he doesn’t swear at me!!
Straight Female Submissive, 46-55
Found the link and clicked on it!!! Looks cool so far.
Clicking the link is how it all starts, and welcome… I do hope you are still here *waves*.
Straight Male Submissive, 65
need to be excited – dream on being forced into sex changed lifestyle.
Hmmm… I’m not delivering either, but if you get something out of my blog… huzzah!!
Heteroflexible Male Submissive, 36-45
Because you’re intelligent, balanced, and not mad.
I am I am!!! Thank you. And I’m only mad sometimes, like when I get up in the morning and there’s no milk… that makes me pretty mad.
Bisexual Female Dominant, 36-45
I have read many of your posts on Fetlife and always feel inspired, re-affirmed or just simply at peace with my sense of self
Yay!! Lovely lovely!! I’m delighted that you get something out of them. Thank you!
Straight Male Submissive, 18-35
linked from fetlife, I’ve always found your forum posts to intelligent and helpful.
I’m so glad you get something out of my posts there… I do try, and I am hardly ever snarky, only sometimes, when it really makes me laugh.
Straight Male Submissive, 46-55
Really first time here, i clicked the link You have on a FL posting.
First time here and you were sucked into a survey… kudos to you for persevering. My Fetlife link brings all the boys to the yard…
Heteroflexible Male Submissive, 18-35
Finally a Dominant who is realistic, not part of the media image of leather clad bitch, and takes male submissives as real people not as objects of degradation.
*smile* I am realistic, own no leather clothes (ok, well belts don’t count, right?) and male submissives are the bomb! Thank you!
Pansexual Neither of the above (please self identify) Switch, 18-35
not really a lot into D/s, still trying to get my head around it, curious about the “why”
Oh, well it has been a few months since you said this… I trust you have found some more clarity. As to ‘why’, I’d start with ‘because it’s fun’ and go from there…
Queer Male Submissive, 36-45
You’re too fucking sexy.
*laugh* And you, sweetheart, are welcome anytime…
Ha! You didn’t think I was done milking sharing the survey results, did you? Now comes a million posts with the free form text answers…
Why do you read my blog?
bi-curious (i.e. straight, never tried the other thang) Male, Unsure, 46-55
you shut down a mind fuck ijnquiry thread on fetlife, that i wanted to contribute to. i think you were wrong. she asked for examples of mindfucks, and she got stomped as a porno- parasite. and i clicked on your hyper link.
Pffftt… I’m never wrong, and the fact that I have no recollection as to what you are talking about only makes me more firm in my assertion about my lack of wrongness! Though it got you to click on my blog link, right? Heh. Gotcha!
Pansexual Female Dominant, 36-45
peon’s link and y’all seem normal to Me
I *am* normal, thank you for noticing!
And for those who are interested in lovely submissive boys, the peon mentioned above can be found shyly hiding his wit and humour behind his sexy six pack here and here (check out his forum posts on CollarMe, seriously, he is awesome!). Peon is single (baffling!) and discerning and deserves the best… English ladies, go get ‘im (seriously, what is wrong with you women?!! GO!). *
* How did this response suddenly become a personal ad for one of my friends, hmmm? Maybe I should start a dating service…
Straight Male General kinkster, 46-55
Great Sense of humor
Thank you! I’m trusting you are only laughing at the funny bits and not, like, the hot and poignant bits…
Heteroflexible Female Switch, 36-45
I like your style. I think it’s hot. Yes, that totally refers to text and content!
Thank you, I like your style too. Direct and to the point!
Heteroflexible Female Dominant, 18-35
my bf wants more femdom stuff and your blog is very helpful
I’m glad it’s helpful… I hope your femdom stuff is going well for the both of you!
Pansexual Male Submissive, 56-65
To be openly honest the other reason is how you share your wonderful humor with us. This reader appreciates and humbly “Thanks You” Ma’am. arthur
*smile* You are most welcome, arthur. What a lovely traditional name, it whispers of genteel and knightly charm.
Étienne asked about the demographics of the folks who responded to the ‘How Much D/s’ question in my survey. The question was ‘how much D/s do you have now, and how much would you ideally like’.
Being the obliging and curious person that I am, I did indeed slice it a little further. Since submissive men and dominant women made up nearly 75% of the respondents, I decided to look at those more closely (click on the graph to see a bigger version).
As a reminder, the categories were described like this:
- “In the Bedroom” – as a spice to sex
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- “Scenes” – may involve sex or not
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- “Kinked-up Day to Day” – light play whenever, chores are part of the dynamic, big decisions are made on an equal basis
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- “Not Quite Everything” – the dom is in charge of most things, but there are carve outs, like family relationships, job, children
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- “Really Everything Total Power Exchange” – no exceptions to the dom’s authority
- None
The percentage of Dommes who are gettin’ some is higher than male submissives with only 16% saying they had ‘none’ in their lives compared with 29% for malesubs.
It’s interesting that the same percentage of Dommes who have D/s in the bedroom want ‘not quite everything’ (22%). To me, it implies that they are getting something, but not what they want (that’s conjecture on my part, I did not investigate the overlap between the two groups).
It’s not surprising that many women are able to get their partners to play in the bedroom. As a dominant woman, it’s really not at all difficult to lead your man into playing D/s sex games, whether he is vanilla or not. The difficulty for submissive men in that regard is that they are generally not only asking their lover to play that way, they are asking her to take the *lead* in it… big call.
Then I got all ambitious and looked at the stats by age (oooh, pretty!). After that I was tired.
More graph porn!
(click the graphs for larger, nude version…)
Explanation of categories:
- “In the Bedroom” – as a spice to sex
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- “Scenes” – may involve sex or not
- ~
- “Kinked-up Day to Day” – light play whenever, chores are part of the dynamic, big decisions are made on an equal basis
- ~
- “Not Quite Everything” – the dom is in charge of most things, but there are carve outs, like family relationships, job, children
- ~
- “Really Everything Total Power Exchange” – no exceptions to the dom’s authority
- None
The majority of you want a D/s relationship with “Not Quite Everything”, this is the same as last year. The largest percentage (22%) have nothing, that’s the bad news (me too… *sigh*), BUT a very close second (21%) of you have D/s in the bedroom (yay!).
There are equal and increased numbers of you who would would like either “Kinked Up Day to Day” or “Really Everything – Total Power Exchange” relationships (16% and 16% respectively compared to 10% and 7% last year).
“To get a dominant woman’s perspective” is the leading reason for reading. That makes me happy! On the other hand, I am making fewer people think and fewer people are learning anything… meh, thinking and learning are overrated!
Those who chose ‘Other reason entirely’ left comments. I will share them in later posts (Wheeee! Fun!!).
Now the most important statistic…
I am 6% more magnificent than I was last year!!!
At this rate, I will be 100% magnificent by 2022!!! I can hardly wait! Be scared, be very very scared!
Many more survey results to come as I stretch out the free text parts into about a gazillion blog posts.
A huge thank you (again!) to everyone who participated in my recent survey. There were around 250 respondents (wow!). That’s a considerable increase over last year (see, if I had done a graph, that would have been a much more interesting factlet!).
My blog has changed quite a bit in the last year, as have my circumstances, so I was keen to see how that was reflected in the responses. Personally, I have become more open, I think, in what I share, however I also have less sexy sex blog content due to the fact that I ain’t gettin’ any and for that, you all have to pay!
So here we go with the first of the graph porn… wheeee… graph porn!!
This is relatively similar to last year, the 0.8% ‘other’ group included genderfluid and genderqueer. Oddly, there was also someone who said ‘neither’ then self identified as a male (bless your little cotton socks…).
My readers overall are a little older than last year, with slightly fewer 18-35s and a pretty even spread of increase in the older age groups. The tiny little sliver is a young ‘un of whom we shall not speak (go and do your homework, young man!!).
There was an increase of about 4% in straight readers, which I guess makes sense given that I identify as straight. There was a corresponding decrease spread over the other categories.
Significantly fewer switches (nearly 10%) and almost a corresponding rise in submissives (7%). Go on, admit it. I made you switches change your mind, didn’t I? No need to answer, I know it’s true…
So now to put some of this together, you folks look like this (aren’t you pretty?!):
More boys more boys more boys!!! There are now 10% more submissive men reading (hello there!) than last year. The number of dominant women is about the same. Fewer switches and general kinksters…
A little closer look at the male submissives and female dominants specifically as the biggest groups now.
Of the male submissives, about 65% are straight, and about 25% are heteroflexible. Just over 31% are aged between 46-55 and about 29% are between 18-35. About 18% are in my age group of 36-45. This split is nearly exactly the same as last year. I find it a little odd… where are the men from 36-45? Should I become a cougar?
Overall, the female dominants are a bit younger, with about 40% in the 18-35 age group and about the same in the 36-45 group. About 40% are straight, with about 22% being heteroflexible.
As a note, my dominant male audience has grown by 100%, there are now two of you! Yay!!
There will be more graph porn to come (yay!), and of course the free text fields are really the most fun, but there are the basics *~happy graph porn sigh~*.
Whispered in my ear
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