Reader Q&A: Desire to please, LDRs, expectations [audio]

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This long overdue Q&A (aren’t they always?!) includes the following:  Desire to please vs hard limits, what to do? Is there an outfit that says ‘Domme’? How do I help a new sub who is struggling? “She wanted a hands-free orgasm, so she tied him to the bed and used his mouth.” LDRs and ‘how to’ I made someone fail their exams, […]

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Q&A: Historical (pre-2013)

The pre-2013 Q&A below was previously and awkwardly placed on the ‘Ask Me’ page.  I put them there in the days when I thought I wouldn’t get many questions, so I didn’t think it was worth creating separate posts for them.  Then the page just got longer and longer, until… well, it just got stupidly and endlessly long. […]

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Reader Q&A: Dominant women struggle, turn-ons, limerence [audio]

  In this exciting instalment of the Q&A, I answer questions about the following:  Getting my long term vanilla husband into BDSM Young domme has shitty experiences and I get fist-wavey about it Tasks? Turned on by wife’s pre-marriage affair Hot scene in Blade: unf! Discipline: what do you do? Limerence: how do you deal?  The Domme Chronicles podcast is available on iTunes, so you can subscribe to it if you want to be sure to get my audio porn delivered straight to your ear holes. ___ Want to ask me something? […]

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Reader Q&A: Letting your guard down, being badmouthed [audio]

  In this episode of ‘Ferns does Q&A’, we have the following:  How can I learn to let my guard down? The elusive ‘good femdom porn’… Play ideas? Reader loveliness: thank you! Being badmouthed by an ex Sydney University!  The Domme Chronicles podcast is available on iTunes, so you can subscribe to it if you want to be sure to get my audio porn delivered straight to your ear holes. ___ Want to ask me something? […]

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Reader Q&A podcast: Domme with vanilla-ish partner [audio]

  A novice Domme has a partner who she loves, they are compatible in all ways, except for in kink. She’s not confident that he’s really into the BDSM that she enjoys and she’s not quite sure what to do about it.  ___ Subscribe to the Domme Chronicles podcast on iTunes. Want to ask me something? Pop on over to my Ask Me page and do it: even if I’m slow, […]

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Q&A: Reconciling dominance and love

This from r/FemdomCommunity (edited). Fellow dommes, how do you reconcile the need for dominance and power with the need for support and love in a relationship? I’m fairly new to BDSM and have never experienced it in a relationship of any kind. I’ve had relationships, and I’ve played plenty, but never with the same people. I know others do it all the time, […]

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Reader Q&A: Food things, ghosting & teletubbies [audio]

  In this episode of ‘Ferns does Q&A’, we have the following:  What is your star sign? Teletubbies question :P What do you think of ‘Steak and Blowjob’ day [on re-listening, I hate how I just went along with the premise that ‘Valentines Day is for the ladieeezzz’: This is what happens when I do the talking thing and can’t edit!] Have you tried sploshing? Alternative food-related  label to replace ‘vanilla’ Maaaaaaaaaaatt Daaaaaaamon!! Women on vanilla dating sites: what the fuck? Do you like spicy foods? Last cookie on earth: What would Ferns do?! Have you ever fantasised about eating off a submissive? What does YMMV mean on a pro-domme’s site? Ghosting… […]

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Reader Q&A transcribed: Finding partners, kidnapping, spanking, threesomes

I asked my amazing ‘man who knows everything’ if he could find some free software to transcribe my last podcast for those who might be hearing impaired, or those who just don’t like audio. He is such a sweetheart that he came back with ‘Yes, I’ll look into it’ AND THEN HE MANUALLY TRANSCRIBED THE AUDIO FOR ME *swoon*. So for the lovely Coug and anyone else who prefers text over audio for whatever reason, […]

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Reader Q&A: Finding partners, kidnapping, spanking, threesomes [audio]

  All the audio porn! The Domme Chronicles podcast is available on iTunes, so you can subscribe to it if you want to be sure to get my audio porn delivered straight to your ear holes. In this one, I address the following reader questions:  How do you polish an apple (no, that’s not a euphemism)? How do I choose a name and start controlling a sub? Have you been in a relationship with someone who had a kink that was a hard limit? Solicitation from a 69(heh) year old in Florida Kidnapping fantasies? Scammer warning (because always!) How do I find a partner? Any advice for a Domme name? Age differences and ageism? Spanking! Online and phone submission A sweet blast from some 20 years in the past (hello colorado *smile*) What’s a NON-vanilla-date for you, […]

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Dominant roots

A question on Fetlife:  Is your dominance shaped by a reaction against anything? The answer to this is complicated. I think we all look back into our past for confirmation of ‘who we are’, so there is a lot of bias in that kind of hindsight. Sexually I vividly remember rape play with barbie and ken dolls (my sister was horrified and never let me play with hers again), […]

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