Reader Q&A: Desire to please, LDRs, expectations [audio]

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This long overdue Q&A (aren’t they always?!) includes the following:  Desire to please vs hard limits, what to do? Is there an outfit that says ‘Domme’? How do I help a new sub who is struggling? “She wanted a hands-free orgasm, so she tied him to the bed and used his mouth.” LDRs and ‘how to’ I made someone fail their exams, […]

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10 steps to make your first BDSM playtime amazing

This is for new dominants. Secrets. Shhhh… no telling. So you’re a new dominant and you’ve met a submissive someone who you really like and click with and you’re heading into your very first ever play session. You’re probably scared shitless (it’s okay, I won’t tell). Nerves are normal: taking something that has lived in your head as a fantasy out into the real world with an honest-to-god real submissive partner is scary as hell. […]

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Reader Q&A: Dominant women struggle, turn-ons, limerence [audio]

  In this exciting instalment of the Q&A, I answer questions about the following:  Getting my long term vanilla husband into BDSM Young domme has shitty experiences and I get fist-wavey about it Tasks? Turned on by wife’s pre-marriage affair Hot scene in Blade: unf! Discipline: what do you do? Limerence: how do you deal?  The Domme Chronicles podcast is available on iTunes, so you can subscribe to it if you want to be sure to get my audio porn delivered straight to your ear holes. ___ Want to ask me something? […]

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Reader Q&A: Letting your guard down, being badmouthed [audio]

  In this episode of ‘Ferns does Q&A’, we have the following:  How can I learn to let my guard down? The elusive ‘good femdom porn’… Play ideas? Reader loveliness: thank you! Being badmouthed by an ex Sydney University!  The Domme Chronicles podcast is available on iTunes, so you can subscribe to it if you want to be sure to get my audio porn delivered straight to your ear holes. ___ Want to ask me something? […]

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Reader Q&A podcast: Domme with vanilla-ish partner [audio]

  A novice Domme has a partner who she loves, they are compatible in all ways, except for in kink. She’s not confident that he’s really into the BDSM that she enjoys and she’s not quite sure what to do about it.  ___ Subscribe to the Domme Chronicles podcast on iTunes. Want to ask me something? Pop on over to my Ask Me page and do it: even if I’m slow, […]

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Q&A: Reconciling dominance and love

This from r/FemdomCommunity (edited). Fellow dommes, how do you reconcile the need for dominance and power with the need for support and love in a relationship? I’m fairly new to BDSM and have never experienced it in a relationship of any kind. I’ve had relationships, and I’ve played plenty, but never with the same people. I know others do it all the time, […]

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Reader Q&A: How to make someone cry

Dear Ferns, I am a very inexperienced novice dom and I recently met this guy who is willing to submit to me. I liked him so we tested the water. Although the scene was tough for him, he didn’t cry, not a single tear. I tried my best to humiliate him since I was looking forward to seeing his crumpling face with tears and whimpering, […]

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Reader Q&A: How to reject someone

So I just had a scene with a perfectly nice sub boy, after which he left all smiles and eager to do it again, and I felt … kind of awful and have no interest in seeing him again. I don’t know why, nothing went wrong, and it’s never been an issue with previous people, so that’s upsetting in itself, […]

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Reader Q&A: Vanilla, young lovelies, cookies

These questions landed in my inbox via my ‘Ask me’ page… Thank you for them! — Dear Ferns,  This is a bit difficult to word so bare with me please (: I have denied my Top side for a very long time.  When I was single I could be quite aggressive sexually and then I met my husband. He opened up a softer side of me and I have become very comfortable letting him lead. […]

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