Protection from what, you may well ask, and I am glad you did…
Submissives apparently need protection from the Big Bad Dommes (BBDs).
Because submissives allegedly can’t say ‘No thank you’ or ‘I’m not interested, strange shouty lady who is ordering me about’ or ‘Are you insane?!’ or ‘Piss off’ or anything of that ilk.
They need their Domme, or some other Domme (one who is *not* a BBD, natch) to filter their interactions, to make smart decisions for them, to jump in with swords at the ready to ‘protect’ them from the BBDs.
I’m not talking about when they are in naked, vulnerable and subspaced somewhere in a play space, I am talking about online BDSM sites and (to a much lesser extent as far as I understand it) real life communities where it seems relatively common for submissives to abdicate responsibility for their ability to look after themselves to this non-BBD in order to keep them safe from the terrible scary BBDs.
Really, why not just make some friends, you know, like normal people… and then… errrmmm… hang out together and look out for each other and give each other advice and… uhhmm… maybe act like grown ups who can take responsibility for themselves?
I really really wanted to keep this neutral and solicit opinions, but, you know, neutral is not somewhere that I live for the most part.
So, do you, dear submissives, need to be protected by a non-BBD so that the BBDs don’t get you? If so, why?
Are any of you dominant women a non-BBD who provides said protection to either your own submissive or to others? If so, why?
Or are any of you (ssshhh, I won’t tell!) a BBD?!! *gasp*
If so, despite my clear bias, I would like to understand and I promise I will listen and not go ‘Pffftt!! Rubbish!!’… not even once!
a possible but unproven BBD