French vanilla dating

© 'Date night, killer boots & all' by & of Ferns

Femdom dating, vanilla style…

I have not come up with a nickname for him instinctively. I’m not sure why exactly. Someone clever on Twitter suggested ‘French vanilla’ (as in ‘vanilla with a hint of more’), which would be super cute if he was actually French :). I’m going to go with My Gentleman (MG) for now, because he so is and it’s quite lovely.

Our second date was a traditional old-style dinner date and I … Continue Reading

Loves: 22
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Vanilla Date #3, second date!

This femdom went on another vanilla date… *gasp*.

Let me catch you up here first…

I texted the Hot Older Man and told him I wasn’t in the right headspace for dating. After our date, I’d said be happy to meet up again when I got back from my break away, but it wasn’t feeling right. I was peopled out from peopling and was working way too hard to mentally build up interest … Continue Reading

Loves: 29
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Happy femdom story: Theriac

Theriac commented on a blog post here about his recent collaring and I invited him to share his happy femdom story.

I’m delighted that he did. It’s super sweet, and goodness knows we need more of that :).

Author: Theriac

Ten years.

Ten years I went without a lover or a partner. I had friends and family, people I was close to, but no romantic partners. Not one.

I had known since I was … Continue Reading

Loves: 19
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Reader Q&A: Femdom Podcast #105 [Audio]

© 'Ferns' Legs' by and of Ferns. Music by M.M. Transcript by MFMWKE.

This femdom Q&A includes the following:

  • Subs as footstools: What do you think?
  • Is my dom mad? Why does he want this?
  • How long can a man go without orgasms?
  • Who was your favourite fictional teddy bear?
  • Why not just choose a vanilla man?
  • Busted at airport security!
  • Public signalling of D/s tendencies
  • “I’m a right wing arsehole and submissive, soooo…”
  • How do I get my vanilla partner to be my dominant?
  • And more!

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Loves: 9
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e[lust] #118

Welcome to Elust 118

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #119? Start with the rules, come back June 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!


~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

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Aaannndd I’m back…

My new baby, so shiny!

Did you miss me?


I’ve been without my beloved George, or any computer, for just shy of a month, and it has been Very Difficult.

I wasn’t doing anything too much different without George except I wasn’t:

  • writing
  • journalling
  • blogging or responding to comments on my blog
  • chatting with friends
  • googling anything unless I HAD to, no, really for real
  • reading blogs
  • logging my workouts / diet
  • emailing with friends
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Loves: 16
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