Yay, Q&A!
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At what age did you figure out you were a domme?
I found out there was such a thing as BDSM when I was about 30.
Before that, I did the work to figure out how to work with power in my relationships, but I had no context within which to put a label on it.
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Hi! I love how dominant girl you are. Yes, I am a fuckable guy! My … Continue Reading
I’m delighted to be one of this month’s featured posts with Overcoming resistance *smile*.
The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #73? Start with the rules, come back August 1st to submit something and … Continue Reading
I’ve mentioned before that I send out emails to submissive men who look interesting to me. Well, I say ‘submissive men’, but on OKCupid, I also sent emails to interesting-looking vanilla men (holy fuck beautiful eyes was one of those). I know I’m not the only (dominant) woman who does that.
And I know that a lot of submissive men would have this idea that the result of me doing that is a foregone … Continue Reading
In general, I’m a pretty happy person. On a scale of 1-10, I’d say I average somewhere around a 7-8 in my every day life.
Sometimes, though, I feel like there is something wrong with me.
Mostly it’s some vague niggling thing in the back of my mind that lives there quietly and doesn’t bother me. In a lot of ways, I just don’t seem to function like other people in the world, and that’s … Continue Reading
Thumper recently wrote a post on his boyfriend Drew’s blog (in case you don’t know the context, Thumper is Drew’s (part time) submissive boyfriend). It’s a hot and interesting post that talks about resistance at its core, and it raises some points that I often have a lot of trouble articulating in a way that makes sense.
I commented on it with this:
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I love this post from the sub perspective, thank you so … Continue Reading
I recently had the privilege of an audio chat with the fabulous Molly from Molly’s Daily Kiss.
We discussed blogging, D/s, labels, monogamy, confidence, stereotypes, and much more.
We also talked about my Domme Chronicles book which she describes as ‘love letters to submissive men’, plus she calls the stories ‘beautifully written’, which makes me beyond happy.
We laughed a lot. Which made the entire chat a complete delight. Plus Molly has a lovely … Continue Reading
The truth is that I am harsher with men in my vanilla interactions than I am with men in my D/s ones. It’s not conscious really, it’s instinctive, but it’s absolutely true.
With submissive men that I am interested in, I trust that their heart is in the right place, that they are genuinely trying, that any issues will be easily and quietly rectified if I say a word or raise an eyebrow. Because that’s … Continue Reading