We hear submissive men say fairly frequently that dominant women do not respond to their emails, or ‘disappear’ after a few back and forths (I put ‘disappear’ in quotes because all it really means is that they stopped responding).
I just want to point out, for the record, that quite often submissive men do not respond to emails that I send them either, or sometimes they simply stop replying when we have some sort of dialogue going on.
I’m not saying that to complain, I’m simply stating it as a fact.
I don’t have some magic wand that compels someone to reply to me, or to keep corresponding with me. They don’t need to have, or give, a reason. If they don’t want to, they don’t have to. It’s their prerogative, just as it’s mine to do the same.
When I send out a random email (usually a compliment of some sort, or a private response to a forum post), I don’t expect a reply, and sometimes, I don’t get one. And when we are having an ongoing conversation, and maybe I have asked some questions in my last, sometimes I never get a reply back.
I will clarify that it hasn’t happened when there has been a clear progression towards a relationship (that is, a ‘serious’ discussion), that’s a completely different scenario. But certainly it happens when I cold call or when I have a casual dialogue going. It’s no biggie, and it would make me bristle if they were to send me a note to say “Thanks, but I’m not interested”. I’d want to respond with “It’s a random email correspondence, guy, you ain’t all that!”
I don’t consider cessation of correspondence rude, or an insult, though I might sometimes be baffled if we seem to be getting along well enough. But really, they don’t need a reason and they certainly don’t need to explain it to me. No harm, no foul.