I often feel like some old curmudgeon when I see how the Youth today ‘do’ D/s and BDSM.
It makes me laugh to say that because I’m not ‘old guard’ or ‘old school’ (I don’t even really know what those entail to be honest), but I DO find myself looking at discussions and going “OMG, really?!” and then shaking my head at them and then at myself because GET THE HELL OFF MY LAWN!
And mostly, what young people are doing is Really Good Stuff. They are, for the most part, smart and thoughtful and considerate and concerned and all of that: They are super aware of consent, worried about abuse, all about negotiation and understanding the boundaries, all of that. And that’s wonderful.
But what I often read in that goes towards the level of “Well, if the submissive doesn’t want to do it, then a good dominant will understand and not make them.”
And what I have seen is that the ‘it’ in that statement extends to *everything*.
If the submissive doesn’t feel like going to that party, doesn’t feel like doing that chore, doesn’t feel like playing that way, doesn’t feel like getting up off the couch, doesn’t feel like doing what they’re told… well then, that’s perfectly fine.
I feel a bit like some old dinosaur going “That’s great kids, but *how is that submission?!*“.
I’ll just be over here in my rocking chair with a blanket over my knees, shaking my head and muttering about ‘the old days’…