… the day continues…
You are reading the paper, I am sitting with legs around you, writing and half listening to you tell me about what is going on in the world.
I tell you to go get moisturiser and you hurry off and back. I offer my hands first, and you start there with a hand massage, I tell you not to linger, I’m hungry, so you will pick up the pace and rub me with it. I will move to give you access to various body parts and scold you if you are just playing, and you will finish with my feet, of course. You will tell me if they need attention (nailpolish chipped, rough skin, nails too long etc) to be addressed later.
Then we will dress. If I want you in something in particular I will let you know (black boxer briefs, a cute t-shirt, cargo pants, sneakers). I will tell you what shoes I want to wear so you can fetch them. You will kneel by me to put my shoes on me (wedge heeled sandals, today, it is sunny and warm), you will kiss my feet when they are shod.
You will ask me to please take your collar off before we go out and you will lay your head in my lap while I unlock it at the back. I will have you wearing something else, regardless (something around your neck, wrist, cock… something), but the collar comes off. There will be kissing with you kneeling beside me, taking the collar off is always a little sweet and sad and you are made naked without it.
You will drive, if driving is required and when we get to the cafe, you will tell me which things from the menu you can eat and I might choose which you are having. We will people watch over brunch and talk about what we will do today. I might feed you, or slide a snakey hand up your thigh and stroke or pinch or otherwise fuck with you if you are being irresistable, or push my chair back and put my feet in your lap all casual like, or do some silly thing where every time I nudge your knee you have to take a bite and watch you try and put food into your mouth when it is full of coffee because that would amuse me.
Then we will head off to wander the craft markets, or maybe go for a drive somewhere new, or maybe head to the hardware store to complete a little project (eyebolts! Hardware stores are fun), or stroll through the farmers markets to get goodies for the dinner you are making. It will be sweet, we will hold hands and discuss produce as if it’s important, earnestly and with serious expressions. And I will randomly ask for kisses when you are talking to me, and maybe notice that my sandal is uncomfortable and have you kneel down and undo the clasp and slip it off to see what is going on there, and slip it back on (did you manage to sneak in a kiss? Ok, I will give you that one).
And it will be your job to spend the day feeding my mood, you will learn how to do that, and it will mostly be unconscious if it is working. You will find my triggers soon enough, that look, that touch, that attitude, that way of being around me, and if you do it right, you will make me hunger and want to touch you, and shove you around, and you will feel it start humming, and if you are clever, you will be able to stoke it all subtle-like, like it’s nothing at all, until I get a little bit crazy and edgy with it and start banging into you, and shove you into a corner at the market and hiss in your ear that you should be naked, boy, on your knees with your face in my cunt and how I know how much you want it, and I would make you say so until I believed you and then I would want to know what else you want and slip a hand under your shirt and dig my nails into your nipple, twist and pull and keep saying ‘”What else, boy? And what else?” until you have nothing left.
Round about then, I would tell you we are going home now.
And by then it’s what… 2 or 3pm? Wow, this day has a lot of words…
…continued here: The Afternoon Part III
I just wanted to say, your blog helped me start exploring D/s with my boyfriend. I really want the lifestyle you’re writing about here. And you write really well, too!
If I was going to ask you something that isn’t strictly related to this post – what are some good terms of address for a fem dom? Master/Boss etc. all seem very masculine.
*carries on stalking the rest of the blog*
“If I was going to ask you something that isn’t strictly related to this post – what are some good terms of address for a fem dom? Master/Boss etc. all seem very masculine”
Standing in for Ferns here briefly. I’m sure she’ll be along to be all wise and stuff in a tick.
There’s no hard and fast rule hon. Personally I like Domina it seems very feminine to me,some like Domme and others do like to be called Master as well
“I just wanted to say, your blog helped me start exploring D/s with my boyfriend.”
*smile* I’m so happy to hear that! Congratulations to you both!
“what are some good terms of address for a fem dom?”
It’s very personal, something that makes you swoon is perfect. Personally, I love ‘Ma’am’.
Others you might like to try out: Milady, Mistress, Domina (thanks Coug, I have a soft spot for that one after watching Spartacus!), Maitresse, Miss, Ms, Madame.
Then you can go all out with the divine and the royal: Goddess, Queen, Empress, Princess.
I quite like MistressBitchyPants myself.
“*carries on stalking the rest of the blog*”
Please do, my blog is a slut for stalkery!
Ack, I wrote a message before but the server timed out!
I’ll make it briefer this time xD Do you have any advice for new dommes? I’ve included my email this time in case I’ve got too offtopic in your comments thread, but me and my subby are each other’s first D/s relationship, so advice/input would be really welcomed if you had any :) Particularly with things like… we’re both switches, so we want to both be able to take turns, as it were, but of course that doesn’t work for a full time dynamic? But at the same time we don’t want to be just-bedroom D/s, so… confusion! But yeah, personal input would be awesome, but if not, this blog is a minefield of information with or without personal attention :)
Also thanks to Coug for her input if she sees this :)
I do, I am very opinionated! *laugh* But that’s a huge question.
I wrote some really general advice here: “You iz doin’ it wrong”.
I will send you an email with some more practical, half formulated ideas. I might write a post on it at some stage, but that requires more thought.
Seriously, *HI FIVE!* lol. I’m really, really glad that Fern’s writing (it *is* good, isn’t it?). This is insanely sweet and happy making.
As far as terms, I like Hun, and getting called shug. Obviously, YMMV, Ma’am or Miss works too, it’s whatever *you* want to be called.
My standard so ya wanna become a domme advice doesn’t really apply here, because, since you’re reading Fern’s blog, I assume you know that you don’t need clothes or some outfit or to wear latex or some shit to be a ‘twue’ Domme. Hell, Tshirt and jeans is sexiest *grin*.
Do whatever you want, have fun (it’s always supposed to be fun!), don’t sweat not knowing what to do (no one does), and communicate constantly. ALSO, if you’re doing something with Sterno fuel or candles,
put a silicone pot holder down to not burn the table. Don’t ask, lol. It was an accident!
@Ferns, sounds like a discussion I’m in currently. (Re: stereotypes keeping people from exploring)
Thanks for the compliment and for chiming in for DKWSoAtUH (heh, rolls off the tongue!), Jake.
“sounds like a discussion I’m in currently. (Re: stereotypes keeping people from exploring)”
Yep, not being able to find something you can relate to in the D/s world is a barrier to entry. I’m baffled that it isn’t obvious to everyone!
Wow, what a compliment from “Doesn’t know what sort of alias to use here.” That’s the wonderful thing about a blog like this, it makes femdom sound appealing to women. I love that play between the two of you. “…you will feel it start humming, and if you are clever, you will be able to stoke it all subtle-like, like it’s nothing at all, until I get a little bit crazy and edgy with it and start banging into you…”
“Wow, what a compliment from “Doesn’t know what sort of alias to use here.””
*smile* Yes! I love hearing from women who can relate, *especially* those who are exploring and find something of value here that helps them.
“I love that play between the two of you.”
Oh, me too! When it’s right, it’s almost unconscious on his part. Guh!
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“Hello , I am a follower of your blog from the beginning. I love it.”
Thank you, I’m glad you are enjoying it.
“I already added your link to my list!”
That’s great, though I couldn’t find it when I looked. You wouldn’t fib to me would you?
“I’am searching for blogroll links exchange with your blog.”
I link to blogs I regularly read and enjoy. I will keep an eye on your blog and if I like it and think that my readers will like it, I will happily add it to my blog roll.
“we will hold hands and discuss produce as if it’s important, earnestly and with serious expressions.”
Produce is always important and should be discussed seriously.
“And it will be your job to spend the day feeding my mood,” […] and if you do it right, you will make me hunger and want to touch you, and shove you around, and you will feel it start humming”
Yes yes! I love this. I think I’ve experienced this, but wasn’t sure how to put it into words (which you always seem to do effortlessly). So beautiful. :)
“Produce is always important and should be discussed seriously.”
*laugh* I can only pull off the *pretence* of it, but I do a very good ‘earnest-discussion-about-apples’ face.
“Yes yes! I love this. I think I’ve experienced this, but wasn’t sure how to put it into words (which you always seem to do effortlessly). So beautiful.”
Thank you! And yes, it’s the loveliest thing!!
What I love is when he doesn’t even realise he is doing it, an unconscious prey-thing. And when he looks up and sees me eyeing him off already, he recognises it, that look, and I see him immediately switch on, working out what will push me further into it. And all of it is barely even there, but still, it hums and pulses between us like a living thing.
Can you just be in charge of the world already?
I want what you’ve described here so hard, and I think that if this was the picture of femdom that was painted for the public there would be a great deal many more women with dominant inclinations looking to explore this.
And also, Damn. You make it hard to be patient and wait for this, I just want it now.
Ferns for President of Earth 2012
“Can you just be in charge of the world already?”
I SOO can! Thank you for the nomination. I just need to work on… oh wait! I will have minions, of course!
“I think that if this was the picture of femdom that was painted for the public there would be a great deal many more women with dominant inclinations looking to explore this.”
I agree. If we had more variety in the depictions of what domination might look like, I think *many* more women (and men!) would be sidling up and going ‘Hey, you know what? That sounds pretty damn good! Lemme at it!’
“You make it hard to be patient and wait for this, I just want it now.”
Oh hell, me too! Now now now! I’m working on it! Once I get sorted, you’re next!
Ok..putting it simply Ferns..i had a hard on the whole way through your day!
*laugh* Well, I’ll take a wild guess: that means you liked it, right? Hard-ons never lie!
Hot! As always.
Concerning the little discussion about how everybody wants what Ferns has: I agree. And I don’t think you just encourage Femdom, I feel that what you are encouraging is in fact a special kind of relationship that can apply to any kind of D/s dynamic. I’m neither a domme nor a male sub, but I thoroughly enjoy the kind of relationship and sex you describe!
“Hot! As always.”
Thank you (I am so loving that nick!!)!
“And I don’t think you just encourage Femdom, I feel that what you are encouraging is in fact a special kind of relationship that can apply to any kind of D/s dynamic. I’m neither a domme nor a male sub, but I thoroughly enjoy the kind of relationship and sex you describe!”
Oh, I’m glad!! I do think of it as specifically F/m because that’s where it’s coming from, rather than making any effort to try and make it so. I’m happy that you can relate from a different perspective!
” slut for stalkery ” wow!!!…..i mean wwwaaaaawwwww!! I really liked that comment. But jokes apart. I loved , JUST LOVED your blog. Your choice of words and the way they are arranged to express the most intimate feelings….its amazing! Attitude and confidence is not something you can buy in walmart :) You have both. Thats what makes ur blog special. cheers!
“I loved , JUST LOVED your blog. Your choice of words and the way they are arranged to express the most intimate feelings….its amazing!”
Oh, sweetness! Thank you for it, I am happy you are enjoying it!
Damn…You’ve been writing about your day without me bugging you to do it and I’ve been missing it. >.<
btw, hi. =) Long time no comment (or read for that matter).
*smile* Welcome back Brids. You must have sensed that I was writing about ‘a day in the life’ and it called you back…
I love the ceremony with the collar. It’s a really sweet thing… and of course, the kissing.
Just the words “… and you will lay your head in my lap…” sent shivers up my spine, and proved just how submissive and tamed i want to be … Your pet, Your boy, Your conquered love. Just beautiful words, and so emotionally charged.
I’m so glad you enjoyed it :).