He is a work colleague: smart, driven, funny, engaging, good at his job. I like him and enjoy working with him. We talked all the time on the phone, but had never met because, well, he’s in North America and I am not.
We were on a call, I was carefully trying to explain something to him, he was distracted, obviously doing something else over there across the ocean. I got exasperated and snapped at him.
“Stop that and pay attention! You *know* boys can’t multi-task!”
He was shocked, he sincerely and sheepishly apologised, agreed with me that no, boys can’t multi-task, and we continued with what we were doing.
We met sometime after that at a conference, it was lovely to put a face to the name, we got along well. As part of these things, of course, there are drinks after the day’s agenda is over. I meet a lot of men (always men!) at these conferences that I work with from all over the world, but have never seen face to face.
I approached a group of them at the bar one evening, and found him gleefully recounting the story of me telling him off to all of them, just like a submissive would show off to his kinky friends about the beating he got! I joined them, he beamed at me, all proud of himself, it amused me greatly, I probably smirked at him. I asked him to get me a drink, and off he trotted.
The next day over lunch, he sat beside me. I pointed out that the table had no salt. He jumped up to get some. During the course of the meal, I had him fetch a napkin from the waiter, get extra cutlery when I dropped a fork, order me another drink, and then go and get me dessert. He was eager and compliant. During the rest of the day, he opened doors, he made sure I always had a seat, he checked if I needed anything, he smiled a lot. It was truly lovely.
Sometimes it takes very little for me to get a little domly fix.
Edited to add: a little more on him here…
Heh. And sometimes it takes very little to get the same kind of subby fix.
Men are so easy. :o)
I have noticed that even when not in a specifically D/s situation, there are people who are, by nature, just more comfortable in a submissive role, I’m not sure if it is genetic or merely a by-product of their environment. It just is.
That sort of interaction can really spice up an ordinary situation, can't it?
He sounds lovely. *giggles*
For a moment there I thought this was me, 'cos of the post tag.
Then I remembered that I don't get to go to conferences :-(
Anonymous XXXXXXX: “Heh. And sometimes it takes very little to get the same kind of subby fix.”
Nice the way that works out sometimes isn't it?!
Charlene: “Men are so easy. :o)”
*laugh* And apparently, so are dominant women (or this one on occasion anyway!).
slapshot: “I have noticed that even when not in a specifically D/s situation, there are people who are, by nature, just more comfortable in a submissive role…”
That's true, and sometimes it is a recognition of each other. When I saw his reaction and recognised his happiness in it, I pushed him a little, to see how he would respond. When he responded well, I pushed a little harder.
For me, this is familiar territory. This is how my D/s relationships develop, like an organic symbiosis. I adore it.
Étienne: “That sort of interaction can really spice up an ordinary situation, can't it?”
smile Absolutely! It was much fun!
Faith: “He sounds lovely.”
He *is* lovely… I have another cute story about him coming…
Tom: “For a moment there I thought this was me, 'cos of the post tag.”
It wasn't you?! But but… I have written 22 posts about you!!! Who the hell is it then?!!
I can't wait for more stories about this lovely gentleman!
AngelSam: “I can't wait for more stories about this lovely gentleman!”
*smile* I don't want you to get your hopes up… he is purely a work colleague of the 'is he/isn't he' variety.
Well nonetheless stories about whomever whether made up or real are a good time in my book. Generally I'm not good about telling stories so I leave it up to everybody else.
AngelSam: “Well nonetheless stories about whomever whether made up or real are a good time in my book.”
*smile* Good! I can tell any number of stories about all the 'whomevers' in my life!
I don’t call that submissive.
That is being a gentleman
Shows he was raised with manners.
I do that for my wife.
*smile* It’s great that you do that for your wife, but I think you have a fundamental misunderstanding about how most work colleagues in professional environments interact if you think this is normal polite behaviour (on either of our parts).