I was happy to get some new questions in my last Sunday Curiosity… two is the minimum for a post, that’s what I figured using very scientific and risky mathematical equations and complex algorithms, besides which, it’s my blog, my rules etc.
So here goes with some cute Q&A…
What does your “snowflake” category mean? Some of the posts evoke memories of my ex for me, someone I still feel deeply connected to even though he’s hundreds of miles away, so I’m very curious.
Snowflake was the nickname I gave to my last submissive (unique, like a snowflake), so I can understand that it might evoke ‘ex-like’ memories with you. I started this blog not so long after I released him so had some sweet and painful thoughts about him that I didn’t want to have turn into bitterness, so quite a few of my early posts were reflections on that relationship.
arnaut rosseau said…
I was going to make a comment for your last post, but I didn’t so know I thought I’d ask a question now.
Do you have any favorite books or authors?
That’s it. I ask it of everyone.
And if you don’t remember, we meet though Fetlife. You commented on some articles concerning the large amount of bad Femdom erotica in relation to the good Femdom erotica (i.e. your blog). Again, Thank you for sending me a link.
Hello arnaut rosseau,
Of course I remember you, and thank you for your question.
I read fiction, easily digestible and (mostly) forgettable… I don’t have favourite authors, but I DO have some favourite books.
My absolute favourite is Catch 22, which is one of the few books that I have read multiple times at different stages in my life and each time I got something completely different out of it (teens… incomprehensible; 20s… misogynist; 30s… brilliant). It is about time I read it again. More recent favourites – The Time Traveller’s Wife (don’t go and see the movie, read the book instead, brilliant and original), The Lovely Bones (I just saw that they have made a movie of this one also… ugh!), King Rat left an impression on me for some reason I can’t quite fathom, Meat which is fabulous airport fiction that surprised me by being about humans kept as cattle, bred, milked and killed for food.
Anonymous dave said…
When you were looking, was there some characteristic about a submissive that would make you dismiss him outright?
Hmmm… I think if you substitute the word ‘man’ for ‘submissive’ in the question above, it is a lot clearer.
I enjoy submissive men very much, they have a quality that vanilla men do not, but when I first meet them, I don’t want to meet the submissive, I want to meet the man. He is not my submissive until we agree that he is, so the men that I like, that I will engage with, that I will build something with, are those who are men first… I like smart, funny, articulate, well rounded, intellectually interesting, emotionally well balanced men.
In terms of characteristics that I dislike… really, any of the things that anyone dislikes… dishonesty, bad hygiene, arrogance, inflated ego, idiocy, stupidity, dullness, boorishness, -isms etc etc.
Specifically related to submission, I cannot take seriously those men who lead with their submission, who offer it up on a platter to me before they know me, who don’t really care who I am as long as I am ‘a dominant woman’. I find this no different to a strange man coming up to me and offering to be my boyfriend when they don’t even know me. Creepy and strange, right? That is a testament to their character, to the fact that they primarily seek someone (anyone!) to fulfil a place in their fantasy and any cardboard cutout Domme will do. Ugh… ugly! I assume that they eventually learn not to do that, or they hook up with ‘insta-Dommes’ who expect every submissive man to be submissive to *them* (‘how dare you look me in the eye when you talk to me?!’ or ‘you must address me as GoddessBitchyPants and be grateful I give you the time of day’ at the first hello)… ahhh… a match made in heaven…
I am finding these questions to be great fun… if anyone wants to ask others, please add them as comments to this post and I will happily do my best to answer them.