I got this question on my Ask Me page, and it was such a good one that it made me get all rambly, so I figured I would turn it into a blog post.
What’s the biggest age gap you could accept in a relationship?
Ha! I love a succinct and difficult personal question!! Well done, you!
The answer is complicated.
My previous relationships have mostly been with men who were within 5-6 years of … Continue Reading
You give the personal trainer money for their expertise.
You give a pro-Domme money for their expertise.
You tell the personal trainer what your goals are, and expect them to get you there.
You tell the pro-Domme what your goals are, and expect them to get you there.
If you have had a previous session, the personal trainer asks how it was, what you liked/didn’t like.
If you have had a previous session, the pro-Domme … Continue Reading
Submission is not passive.
I remember a submissive saying to me once “It’s easy for me, I just have to turn up and do what I’m told…”
Yeah, good luck with that.
Submission is NOT about being passive. If someone chooses ‘submissive’ as a role because they think it absolves them of the responsibility to be an active and enthusiastically functioning participant in a relationship, they are going to be sadly disappointed.
I see a … Continue Reading
I don’t say “I love you” much. I am stingy with it, miserly. I hoard it to myself as if it might get used and old and dirty if I put it on the table.
I feel deeply and hard, but “I love you” is like taking out a huge knife and carving the words into skin, pain and blood spurting everywhere, cries of elation or hurt, his or mine, both sometimes.
The feeling comes … Continue Reading
I speak often about the hunger that drives my dominance. Really, when I am in it, that’s all I write about, in different ways, with different contexts: I am essentially just saying the same thing over and over.
I have a passionate crazy hunger that I ache to let loose, that I look to escalate and satiate, a feeling that makes me want to strip the very skin off my boy’s bones so I can … Continue Reading
Hello 22yo-guy-who-found-my-story-on-literotica,
I didn’t reply to your last because I already told you that I am not interested in an erotic exchange and yet you are persisting with it. I am not sure what about my lack of interest was unclear.
And now you send me an unsolicited cock shot. This is a good indication that any future conversation is not possible.
Please don’t contact me again.
Best of luck to you.
Ferns… Continue Reading
Dumb Domme wrote a really great personal post about sometimes wanting some extra attention from her submissive and struggling with how to get it (especially as he is somewhat long distance). I don’t want to paraphrase her thoughts about it. Go read it.
I responded in the comments with this:
… Continue ReadingI want attention, but MORE than that, I want him to be all over that shit. As soon as I have to *ask* for it,