Question (paraphrased from the ‘Submissive men and the women who love them’ Fetlife group):
Are dominant women even sexually attracted to submissive men? They never talk about BDSM as if they are.
Dominant women (or even ‘most women’) don’t shout about their interest in sexytimes all over the internet or talk about it with strangers because it attracts creepy inappropriate behaviour from men who think any woman who expresses an interest in sex will want to have sex with HIM.
ANY woman who publicly states that she loves sex, that she’s in the BDSM for sex, that men’s bodies make her hot etc etc is going to be inundated with creepy dudes who will (of course) think:
“THAT MEANS SHE WANTS TO HAVE ALL THE SEXY SEX WITH ME AND LOOK AT MY COCK AND SHE WILL FILL MY INBOX WITH SEXTING AND GET ME OFF AND BOY THAT MAKES ME HARD AND HERE I AM STRANGE LADY DO THE SEX WITH ME BECAUSE I AM A MAN AND YOU LIKE MEN AND YOU LIKE SEX PICK MEEEEE!!”
And you know what? We get that crap even if we DON’T publicly talk about how much we like sex, how attractive we think beautiful men are, how turned on we get about x y or z.
- Women talk about how much they like sex with men whose kit they want to get off, men who they desire, desperately and madly and with passionate and reckless abandon.
- If she’s not talking to you about it, THAT’S NOT YOU PAL.