[The following email was in response to my personal ad on a site that allows you to choose your kinks from drop down lists. I did not choose any.]
“I would have thought ‘having your shit together’ – on your part – included being capable of listing your kinks.”
I think you are confusing ‘being capable of’ with ‘wanting to’. Easy mistake to make if you aren’t all that bright.
I’d also reconsider your criteria for assessing whether someone has their shit together or not if I were you. Seriously, if you consider selecting a bunch of kinks from random drop down lists on a website to be the definitive measure of whether someone is emotionally, mentally, and financially stable, I think you are probably going to run into some problems.