As an experiment in doing things differently and meeting a man without establishing that we had any compatibility first, my recent date really turned out much as expected.
I didn’t feel any real connection in our communications leading up to the lunch, and I didn’t feel any when we met.
I know that for some, surprise face-to-face chemistry can spark a forest fire despite not having very much going on before meeting, but this confirms that it’s really unlikely that that’s going to work for me. I know it’s a completely insignificant sample, but given how much I hate meeting people, I’m not planning to do it again.
It was worth giving it a go, just to see how it felt, but how it felt was ‘eh’. In future if I don’t feel excited to be meeting him because our emails/IMs/phone calls have been so wonderfully fun and interesting, I’m just going to drop it.
On another note, and in the interests of expanding my options, I have put a personal ad out there. There is no link to my blog on it (it’s not hard to figure out, but I actually think I am kind of hidden here in my little corner of the internet). I will probably write more about it later. Suffice it to say that I am pleasantly surprised at the quality of responses.